Ok I met this beau guy and we have been going out for a week. You know phone calls, dinner, movies. And everything seemed to be so cool until sat morning he didn't show up as he said, calling later to say he was too busy for work, I had another plans during the day so I told him I'll call him once I left the party I was that day. Got a voice mail at 6:30 that I didn't check until around 8:20 or so. I'll call him and tell I'll leave at 9. By then we didn't really know what we were doing or going, he called me back around 8:50 when I'm in the car with my friend leaving the party to tell me he got an stomachache! And I'd better stay in the party. Of course I think he's lying but I said you know I just left my friends (and I was really having a great time). Anyway I don't know what to do. What if he wasn't lying but it's not like you get a stomachache in 15 mins? So why he was calling just to say at the end, ohh I'm sorry but I feel sick. Please help! What if I'm just thinking bad and he was really sick. In the other hand I mean 2 in a row!
Update: Thanks to all for your answers, in different ways they were very useful but Hunterboyz was the most helpful, after all it was too soon to make any conclusion. He was really sick, we have been seeing each other and having great time together =)
4 months ago
Its very possible he was telling the truth. But I think you should let him call you first. You could call if you wanted to though, because I don't believe it would be giving up ground. It could be just to check to see if he is feeling better, but I say nothing more than that. Let him draw up more plans for you 2 and if he doesn't. Then let it go. HE lost one! Good Luck
Don't ever break up your plans to accommodate someone who doesn't call before to cancel. He called later? Hell no. He might have been too busy but at least show courtesy as to not waste someone else's time. If you're going to do anything with this guy in the future let him call you first and then make the plans. He's screwed up too many times so put his ass in the doghouse.
Go with your gut instinct, it will always help you. Whether you want to believe him or not, go with what you know is for sure. Sometimes we over analyze, but other times, our instinct is correct and we choose to ignore it because we don't like the truth. Never, never, never make the focus on the guy, always, always, always make your life more interesting, whether it truly is or not in order for him to realize that he wants to be with a woman who has a life of her own. I think you should have stayed at the party and said screw it to even call him, you are having fun and if he was in your shoes, do you really think he would have called you? Probably not. Don't make yourself so available and he will come crawling back, but once he does come back, still don't make yourself too available, let him know it is a special treat for him to hang out with you and your busy social life! Hope this helps.
I say go with your gut on this one. My first impression is he's not that interested anymore for whatever reason. You've only been going out one week. Maybe he feels things are moving too quick or just not than interested. You never said exactly how you met either. Was it at a bar ? On the street? Bookstore? If you want an answer, I'd say don't call him. If he's truly interested and was telling the truth about the stomach ache (which I doubt) I'd let him call you first. Don't call him. He knows how to use the phone so, see if he calls. If you haven't heard from him in about a week or two, cut your losses and move on.
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