We dated briefly 3 years ago. I broke up with him when he told me he wasn't ready to get serious.
We have bumped into each other over the years but I was in a relationship. Last August I was single and bumped into him again, and told him I was single. He didn't show much interest and I moved on a met someone. Even though my feelings for him have always been strong!
Early this year. He turns up at my house saying he wants to be with me, but I was in a relationship. He said he could make me happy, and I told him I didn't think he was serious, but he told me he was and that he could make me happy and that I should give him a chance.
After months of thinking about him, I broke up with my boyfriend.
So me and this guy are seeing each other (not in a relationship like he said he wanted initially, which I don't understand), his behavior doesn't really show me he cares, sometimes he calls, sometimes he doesn't. We don't really go out anywhere!
I mean he has done a few nice things for me, but I just don't feel like he is interested me, and he speaks to loads of girls on the phone, he also introduces me to people as his "close friend".
I also think he is seeing other girls as he had a pack of condoms and then the following week there were none left? I'm confused?
He says stuff like, when are we going to get married, and you'll make a great mum, but doesn't show me any regular feelings that you would expect a guy to show when he likes a girl.
He bought me flowers for my birthday, and in the card just wrote his name, he also arranged for a car to pick me and my friends up.
I met his mum and sister twice at the weekend, we also met up on Tuesday, today is Thursday and I have not heard from him? Which is another example of him showing he doesn't care.
Whenever I try and talk to him about it, he says I think too much and should just go with the flow!
Please advise!
What's going on?
Update: Plus should I call him todays Thursday. I have not spoken to him since we last went out on Tuesday Night?
6 months ago
I think the guy is just playing you. Plain and simple. its if like he has you brainwashed and you let him by being stuck in that trance of affection towards him. So he is using it as a weapon, to not call you his girlfriend making him single yet have you there for the "backup". Those compliments and those once in a while gifts are what keeps you in it while he is out doing his thing. trust me one of my best friends (girl) had this happen to her same thing the guy just played her over the years. ( tried to help , but she was stubborn) sometimes its hard to accept it but you just have to let him go! a pack of condoms just doesn't empty itself out. Unless he does he thing in them alone , but that would be weird. maybe I'm jumping to straight into the cheating conclusion, but that's the only way I see it. Us guys with interest usually show more affection to the person we care for.
Do you think there is anything I can do to test him? - 6 months ago
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I can't really think of a way on testing him. you could call him but that can show you are needy specially to that guy. i think the best thing to do here is if you want him to change a bit if there is any chance , is just call once and tell him you two need to have a talk and tell him how you feel on what he's been doing and that you don't like it, if he sweet talks you like before I say you double think it about trusting it and see if he really means it this time - 6 months ago
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Thinking about your relationship is sane. If he bashes you for it again id say just walk out of it asap. You shouldn't stress out on things like this if the other person isn't taking it seriously and just playing you. - 6 months ago
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