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RoCkStAR1985

From just friends to sex....help!!! How can I fix it?

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RoCkStAR1985 (Age:18 to 24)     When: 6 months ago
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So yeah we we're just friends not like best friends, but one crazy night we had sex. Now he's different w/me and I think he's avoiding me. I DON'T wanna be his girlfriend or anything I just wanna keep it cool. But apparently I can't. Yesterday I sent him a text "let's go 2 da movies" he totally never texted me back so I sent another one "well if you don't wanna see me again you just gotta say it" then he texted me back saying "Oh didn't see your message plus I got plans of staying home" then I got pissed off and said" no I don't feel like watching a movie w/u anymore anyways" he answered"oh ok talk to you later". I waited like 'till night and I sent him a whatever message"my ipod doesn't work" and he never texted me back and he was online all day on myspace, and msn. And he obviously saw I was online but he never talked to me and obviously he never even called me back. I WANNA FIX THIS

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DeltaBoy1983 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 6 months ago
You need to take two steps back a breathe! I feel you are hurrying a decision for him that is going to end bad. He is just as confused about the situation as you are, and the way he is dealing with it is space. Give it to him. The more you try and pressure a 'forget what happened and move on' type feel, the more he will push you away. He might be scared that because of what happened, that now you want to be his girlfriend. Which as you mentioned you don't, but does he know that? My advise is give a little space to him, then talk like adults about it and realize y'all feel the same way about the boyfriend / girlfriend topic. Next thing you know you are back to the way you were, with maybe gaining a friends with benefits on the side =).
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Question Asker well thanks a lot. that really helps. your right and what you just said is what i was thinking. and i don't wanna sound hoeish but i just want him to be my friend w/benefits, his really cool to be around but he's younger (20 , i'm 22) and immature so obviously i could never take him as a boyfriend. how long do you think i should wait to talk to him? - 6 months ago
Answerer Not long, just a couple days max. Make sure he is in a good mood and just bring up the issue. Like, 'hey the other night was fun, wasn't it! ' And just be honest that you didn't want anything serious to come from it, it was strictly fun. By that time you should be able to judge how emotionally involved he was. If he was then you are gonna have to do some comforting talk, lol, but if not then y'all will be fine. You don't even have to mention the F. W. B. Let that come about naturally through action. - 6 months ago

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Anonymous User (Age:Under 18)      When: 6 months ago
Well if you never had strong feelings 4 him you shud not have done it. He jus used you 4 yo body. Once he get what he want he done.
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gbabysmooth (Age:Over 45)      When: 6 months ago
I've been told that you shouldn't have sex with your friends, for just that reason, things will never be the same. I am not saying that your situation can't be fixed, I'm simply saying it won't be the same. I know a person, who had been friends with this other person for a very long time, they decided they were going to explore, (ya know, play house), so they started kissing, it felt awkward, so they tried it again, a long sensual kiss, and when they finished they looked at one another, and laughed, and laughed, because they knew after that last kiss, that they were friends ONLY nothing more nothing less. I'm assuming you went farther than the kiss, and now things are really awkward, well, you have done your part, the ball is in his court. Let him text you, and when you are on myspace, and you see he is online, sign out. If you can fix your page where he can't see ur online, that would be even better, (for a while) he'll wonder why you haven't been online, why you haven't texted him. Give the guy some space, maybe he doesn't know how to take what happened between the two of you. Just learn from it, give him some space, and keep on doing what you do. He knows how to get in touch with you.
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Question Asker Thanx, as reading ur comment I started feeling really sad, maybe 'cuz deep down I know how this is gonna end. - 6 months ago
 
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