Folks, this has happened to me on numerous occasions. Sitting at the restaurant, standing at the park, looking like a complete idiot by myself all decked out waiting for my date. No call, no show, nothing. I go back to the women(if I can find her) and I get excuses. End up stomping away, mad at why she just didn't say no in the first place.
Why do we do this? Am I the only one who wanted to commit mass murder on the opposite gender after what, the fifteenth time? Why not say no? Most of us men are used to rejection. Standing up your date is so uncool.
Men are bad for this also, so don't get the feeling this is a rant against women.
To add on to what daydreamercarla said, some guys are very pushy. They won't give up until they get a yes, no matter how many times the girl tries to get out of it. We feel bad saying "I can't go because I don't want to" Eventually we run out of excused and are cornered into saying yes. I think that to avoid getting pressured into another date, some girls just don't show up.
The only time I've been stood up, it wasn't a date, it was waiting for a friend for lunch. It was the most miserable thing ever. I can't imagine doing that to someone unless I got run over or something. It's just cruel.
I've never stood anyone up and never been stood up. I kinda thought cell phones killed this. I agree that it's terrible, but I really didn't think it was common. Are these dates set up via the internet?
Every time, I was stood up by a woman I had met in person. The method in my approach was either knowing them a little first or I just went straight to the question upon first contact. That was during my younger days in college and throughout my 20's, right before cell phones first appeared. Each time, I heard some lame excuse as to why they didn't show up or call. I haven't asked a woman out in almost 10 years. Escorts being the exception - 4 months ago
Ok, I'm going to just spill out the truth without beating around the bush: we feel bad. Women are very sympathetic, so when a guy asks us out depending on how we are approached we will say yes. But never show up so you could get the hint without really having to face you. (see how it works)
It is extremely low for women to do this.
I say just get to know the woman first, like hang out in groups or just be friends. Most women do this especially when we don't know the guy. So, your best bet would be to slowly work your frienship instead of bluntly asking a girl out.
If a guy works the friendship, 90% of the time, he'll never get the relationship. - 4 months ago
Question Asker
I'm beginning to get a bit too old for the dating thing now, my chances are very low. About the only "dating" I have done in the last 8 years or so have been "hired". - 4 months ago
Answerer
No, no, not at all! If anything, it sparks a better chance for guys because if a woman got to know a man better, than they would feel comfortable to go on those dates.
Personally, I even had a best guy friend who I ended up dating and it lasted more than when I dated guys who I met on the first day. I believe it's because the my guy friend knows how I am and how I react towards certain things so he knew what to do.
No one is too old to be dating! I think someone's ready to settle down. Right? - 4 months ago
I never been stood up. In this day and age of cell phones. How hard is it to call and say I am sick, something came up etc. There are legit excuses for not showing up for a date. But there is no reason for a stand up.
To be honest I haven't been stood up before, and it seems like you have alot, I don't know man need more info to tell what it was your doing wrong, how do you go about asking them on a date?
So me and couple friends went out last night to this club, I really didn't want to go because I had to get up early the next morning to work. The girl...
View Answers
he's my escort and the party is THIS saturday. I've asked him twice weeks ago if it was fine for him to accompany me at this party and both times he...
View Answers
Used to be that the man would go out to work, the woman would stay home with the 2.4 children waiting for the moment that hubby walked through the door so she could greet him with a cocktail and make...
I've heard thousands of conversations between women, and I'm convinced that most of the advice they give each other is nothing more than the often repeated thoughts of other people. That is to say,...
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 4 months ago
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
