I'm a pretty attractive guy. I work out all the time. I have a great body. A pretty good job. I'm completely humble. (meh) I have style that females always compliment me on. In fact, I have the ASSHAT problem of catering to females as to how I dress, walk, and act. I make sure I look good for them. My problem is. I CAN'T ATTRACT females at all. I try VERY hard to talk to them and they just are uninterested. Yeah sure. I lack game, but at least I'm cool and have some modicum of communication skills. What am I lacking? What the HELL am I doing wrong?
You sound like a great guy, but really you need to stop trying SOOO hard! It's good that you have good fashion sense and that you look after your body, but you need to do all this for YOURSELF rather than thinking "hey would a girl like this?! ", otherwise it's just as bad as all those girls who mold themselves into something they think guys would really like.
You sound like the type of guy I would look at and think that you had a new girl every week, because a lot of guys that are that type would have similar style to you, for different reasons of course. Your lack of "game" would make me think you had lack of interest because I would personally have judged you to be the 'player' type (sorry! ).
You said you have communication skills, so just put them to use and chat with a girl, make her laugh just let her realise you are a nice genuine guy :)
LOL good points. When I was like 20, there was this woman who I was COMPLETELY in to. She was extremely cool and down to earth. I tried my best to get to know her and we went out a few times but she flat out told me I looked like the type that cheats! Which really hurt me! Lol Granted, she was 5 years older than me, but that is pretty much my whole life. I meet great people and am branded a potential cheat or too high maintenance. BTW, I am slowly start to dress for myself LOL. - 6 months ago
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Haha that is terrible branding you as a cheat straight off, but it's true that most of the girls I know would suspect you were looking for a short term hook up or that you had 3 other girls on speed dial along with our own number. Seems like if a guy dresses nice he has problems, if he dresses bad he has problems - can't win either way lol. But yea when girls get to know you I'm sure they will realise you are a good guy and not just putting on an act to get into their panties! :D - 6 months ago
Honestly, appearance is only a fraction of what girls are interested in. If you really want to get a girl to like you, be yourself and let your personality shine through. You may not attract all girls that way, but you will find a few who are similar to you. If you are dorky, be dorky! Some girls find it incredibly cute! If your serious, funny, artistic, whatever. The most important thing is that you are confident and everything will work out!
You need to stop trying so damn hard to please other women. You need to just be yourself and half a laugh and stop worrying about how women will percieve you. Do this and you will probably find that women will like you more because you are then being more of a man and not caring how you look so much in front of women than being so self-concious that most females probably think of you as too "high-maintanence".
You know. You are right. I have been called "high maintenance" by a few of my female friends, at least on first impressions. Once we became more acquainted they knew I wasn't. How does one make it so you are not PERCEIVED as high maintenance, however? Change the way I dress? Put on some weight? All jokes aside, what can I do to endear myself some more? - 6 months ago
You say that you are completely humble after rambling about how you do this and have great that. Whatever about all of that. I know plenty of people who could not possibly care less about their body and have a shitty job or are completely jobless that do not have the problems you do. If you are working out, walking, acting, and whatever just for the approval of girls then that makes you extremely superficial and really means that you have no confidence in yourself. Do whatever makes you feel happy and girls will come. Talking to girls really isn't that hard especially if you are "cool" they are just people after all. What are you lacking? Sounds like manliness in my opinion. Go about whatever you are doing differently and I'm sure you'll get different results.
Dude. I was being facetious when I mentioned me being humble. And questioning my "manliness" is a bit harsh, don't you think? Fall back a LITTLE bit with that. That being said, I DO agree with you when it comes to my "superficiality". I can be. Actually I am. My therapist and I are working on that LOL. Good points sir, but next time don't be so harsh. It's not that serious lol.
PS the internet is SERIOUS business. - 6 months ago
Well I'd first say stop bending to how they want you to look. Think about two people standing together. The way the dressing is currently means your bending and leaning towards them so they don't have to do anything to touch you. You need to first stand up straight and strong so that the other person has to bend, but still reach out and invite action. To be honest that is only very rough advice so I'd suggest providing more info about the situations you are in, etc.
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