I have met the my perfect match in life. I have fallen deeply in love with her. We get along great for the most part. We enjoy some many of the same things. She is the type of woman I been looking for my whole life. We laugh together. We joke around. She can just look at me and she makes. She is very beautiful.
Let me explain myself. I am kind , caring , polite most of the time. And my past makes me look like I am a loser. We all have our rough edges in life. We all have a past.
Well I had logged on to my email about two weeks ago on her computer and some how it stay logged on . Well she recently found my open email. And was able to read all my mail. I still had sent massages from my ex on there and some other not so pleasant emails. Like I said before I am a kind and caring person. And yes I called my ex beautiful . But that is how I am , polite, kind .The ex and me were not meant for each other. It was a relationship that was based on sex. It was not love.She was not very beautiful, But I still had to be kind. And nice . Because That's how I am. I also had some emails that had my sexual thoughts , that I though I wanted to check out. But I was confused. I didn't want a serious relationship. But I never accepted any offers for just sex. I answered an ad online for a companion. And I was not looking for a relationship when I answered the ad. But the fact is I have fallen in love so deeply with her. I don't care about any of my sexual thought anymore. My love for this woman is the truest form of love I have ever experienced in my life. I love her with all my heart! And She is very BEAUTIFUL! But know seeing that I have called other woman Beautiful. She does believe me that I mean it. But I do mean it.
I just want to leave my past behind . Know in my past means anything to me know. I just want to be happy, and she makes me happy. I don't want to lose her. I don't know how to make her believe me. I love her with all my heart.
So please let me know what you think,
Thank You for taking the time to read my life story.
Well everyone here doesn't know the details of the story. But I can say that she should kick your sorry ass to the curb. Unfortunately sometimes our hearts speak over our brain and we go back. If your lucky that will be the situation for her. Trust is a major issue and that is something that will have to be earned all over again. If you want her to forgive and forget then you need to be patient with her and start over with baby steps. Good luck with that because if she chooses to stay and you mess up again, I can almost guarantee it will get nasty and you will never see her again!
Really she should dump you cause you over here talking to your ex when you have someone way better then her and that's not right thinking and talking to your ex that kind of way when you have someone.i think you should have have left your pass behind has soon as you saw how much love you have for this woman
She really should not be reading your personal email. Trust is a two-way street, and it seems that you have as much reason not to trust her and she does not to trust you. What would you find if you went snooping around in her email? We all have things that are private, being in a relationship means being open and honest, but it doesn't mean you can no longer have your private thoughts.
Also, since when does calling someone beautiful mean that you can never pay that compliment to another living soul? You plainly love this woman, does she believe that when you say "I love you" you can't possibly mean it because you've said that to other women before her?
Your right I should not be reading his email but I hadn't known him very long and needed to know what kind of person he is. I have kids. Need to protect myself and kids. learned more than I wanted. And I thought I was special when he called me beautiful, I didn't know that every woman was beautiful in his eyes. So yeah your right, NOW I am insecure and distrustful! - 5 months ago
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In my experience, it's better not to look for things to be wrong when everything feels right. Just enjoy the ride and take it slow. Perhaps if you allowed his feelings for you to grow over time, he would have deleted these messages on his own. Like photos of ex-girlfriends-you can't expect a guy to trash old memories when he's just getting to know you. What would he find in your in-box? Also, I still can't see why it bothers you that he has found women before you beautiful. Accept it with grace. - 5 months ago
He wouldn't of found much in my inbox or out for that matter. We got past all that and everything was great but now he has other past issues and says he can't be with me he has to deal with his past. Just dumped me out of the blue after having sex with me that same day. Says can't be in-love with me because of his past. Ya great guy! After I began to trust him with my heart. would you want the same gift your guy gave to all his past girls? I don't want the same name, I want to be different, special - 5 months ago
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No, I honestly can't think of a more ridiculous reason to be upset. There are enough real issues couples have to overcome--real problems--if you're the kind of woman who picks a fight in the beginning (the honeymoon) of a relationship for being called (GASP) beautiful, then you're just looking for reasons to be unhappy. This man considered you his "perfect match in life" Now he's gone. Perhaps you expect too much. I don't mean to judge, but the complaint about beautiful thing is plain nuts. - 5 months ago
I suggest you tell her exactly what you just asked the rest of America! She needs to read your question because I would forgive my boo if I read how he really felt about me.
think if you would want your girlfriend sending "kind and caring" e-mails to her ex. Basically, switch everything you wrote to that girl and pretend she wrote it to her ex. If you honestly wouldn't have a problem with it then she should give you another chance. But if you have to hesitate or would be uncomfortable at all then you already know what it is.
Tell her exactly what you posted here. Cutting your ex out of your life implies that she needs to be cut out for a moral reason. If you can be just friends, then do that, and just that. She has a real name, so use it. Apologize for using terms of affection with someone else, because it takes away from when you say it to her. Tell your ex the situation. Healthy friendships with ex's are not a bad thing, but they have to be healthy.
It is what it is. If it was based on sex, I don't see any grand friendship. If there is a grand friendship then start treating it that way. But be honest about what it was and what you want it to be versus what it can be. I think the healthier and more respectful choices you make will work for you in the long run. Also, KEEP YOUR GIRLFRIEND IN THE LOOP. The more she feels informed, the less she will feel the need to kick your rear to the curb.
you're getting "being kind" mixed up with wanting multiple women. that's not being kind, so stop trying to make yourself feel better. first thing to getting her back - stop making excuses for your behavior. she doesn't want to hear excuses or explanations, what you did was disgusting and wrong. second thing - never give her any reason to not trust you again. no more bad e-mails. third thing - don't give up on her. if you truly love her, just don't give up, that's the only thing I can think of that would make me believe my guy really loved me.
sorry for being harsh. but it didn't seem like you really thought you did anything wrong. I mean, you're not as sweet and kind of a guy you're saying you are.
There are many aspects to sustain a healthy relationship, one of the aspects embedded into it is trust. If she doesn't trust you.who's fault is that? Hers, or yours. Has she had a bad history with guys, or are you not trust worthy?
Dude, if you really love this woman. try cutting off one of your ears, it worked for Van Gogh. or maybe just a finger. The japenese mafia does this all the time to regain their lost honor. And if she wonders why you did this.tell her loves and scissors both work in mysterious ways. If she can't forgive you for something this minor.then what happens later on when you cough or fart in public. those are accidents. But are they forgivable? hmmm. just a few words from my dome. go ahead and marinate on that for a minute.you'll understand me-good luck man!- j
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