because most guys don't want to work in a relationship. they want to reap the rewards with minimal work. in my honest opinion, the things that you work for the most are the things that are worth living for in life. you appreciate them more and because of that you work even harder to keep them in your life. it's the same concept in relationships. guys, especially young guys just want something easy. they'll work at the beginning of the relationship, but eventually they run out of energy,will power and drive for the marathon. that's right guys, life & relationships is not a one time track race, it's a marathon. so whoever gave up on you, isn't worthy of you. he gave up because he was afraid of putting any extra effort and probably thought that he can get someone else with less effort than staying with you.
My comment back to you since my comment thing doesn't work right now.
If he told me that he loved you and that he felt the best when he was talking to you the day before, and he tried to call you14 times the night after he dumped you, then how can you say he had given up so early? Why didn't you get any of those calls? Also, not knowing how young he is I'd say he was just in some kind of bad mood or jealous of something you had did or how you dressed but later totally regretted what he had did to you. You need to call him back and ask him what was so important for him to tell you that he kept trying to reach you all night after he had just dumped you, ok?
Yeah I asked him why he kept calling me he said that he wanted to hear my voice. This was three months ago and I blocked his number because he got frustrated when I kept asking why he dumped me. He wasn’t giving me straight answers. He said he “didn’t feel the same” and that he didn’t know what happened for him to fall out of his love for me. If you need details to understand this better my other question is posted as “Want me back?” - 5 months ago
Guys are like dogs at times they give up quick if it's not getting as far and as fast as they want. Remember guys are not big in waiting for anything. Like when a guy goes shopping he always what's to get done real fast, and young guys have hormones that don't slow down tell their in their late 20's remember Guys don't like to wait very long
Unless the girl is worth it like he portrayed I was. He knew what he was getting into I'm not having sex until I'm married he would've waited for that. - 5 months ago
Ok I disagree with drkind2000 because I don't think it has anything to do with why he's gone!! but you don't get it hunni a guy telling you he loves you and you are amazing doesn't mean it is true you have it set in your mind that its true i am telling you for a fact if he did he would move the world to be with with you no matter what your young you will realize so when you get older :D xx - 5 months ago
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I don't get why people keep referring to the fact that I'm young. I can't help that I'm young and I'm hurt I'm living in the moment right now I'm not crying for the future. - 5 months ago
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Let me say this! I have been great friendship with this girl for a long time, I now want more in our relationship then just friends and she still only wants to be friends, now I'm getting tired being just friends, I have waited for so long I'm tired of waiting for the next step, so I'm moving on. like I said guys have a hard time waiting to long - 5 months ago
That is such a good question and sometimes I wonder about that myself. I have a hunch that down deep he never thought it'd get as serious as did and doesn't really wanna be that tied down yet. If there was sex in that relationship maybe to him it's starting to get boring and a lot of times that's the disadvantage of having sex way too early in a relationship because it turned into more of a sexual relationship rather than one of love. Maybe the guy didn't think it was such an amazing relationship as the girl did and she didn't notice the hints. But I can see girls getting hurt easily when they thought they really had their man for sure and now it wants out. :-( There's other reasons, of course. :-(
Dumping me because he didn't feel the same anymore even though the day before he told me that he loved me and that he felt the best when he was talking to me or with me, I just don't get it. Also having 14 missed calls from him the night after he dumped me, missed calls up until 5:30 in the morning... - 5 months ago
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When: 5 months ago
i agree with irish girl o8 a guy is not going yo give up an amazing relationship you might of thought it was amazing but he didn't I'm sorry that's not the answer you want as you disagreed with the girl below but this site isn't about hearing what you want its about the truth
Unless they're not able to be together, and he tells her he loves her the day before he dumped her and told her that it's going to be up to her if they would ever end their relationship. Telling her that she's perfect and amazing and that he's the happiest when he's talking to her or with her. - 5 months ago
amazing relationships can get scary. Every dog does have it's day, but it's year is a stretch. they may fear the increasing amount of commitment and the work that comes with making a relationship last. all these things could send a man running for the hills
Just because I'm 16 doesn't mean I'm ignorant, young, and immature. Young is one thing but assuming I'm ignorant and immature is another. I've gone through more than you'd think and it doesn't necessarily have to do with guys. - 5 months ago
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I didn't mean you girl...i meant the boys. - 5 months ago
I understand that you are confused right now, but I can guarantee, so is he. Sometimes, guys say those things, like they love and are so happy with you because they are trying to hide something that they are really feeling. And sometimes, even though they say those things and mean them, there is some other factor that is stronger that pulls them away. I'm noticing you are under 18, your young and especially at your age (I'm guessing he's around the same age) things are really confusing, especially to guys. And if he's been trying to call you, he either regrets it or he really wants to talk to you, at least to set the record straight as to why he had to break it off. So do yourself a favor and talk to him. It will give you both closure.
Talking to him would be way too crazy and random, I haven't talked to him in 3 months. - 5 months ago
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Oh, sorry, I guess I was under the impression that this just happened. Well then, just don't let it bother you anymore, it sucks, but it probably happened for reason, your first love is always the hardest to loose. - 5 months ago
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...I can't let it bother me anymore? If he's the first thought when I wake up in the morning I don't know if those thoughts are intentional. - 5 months ago
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OK you seriously are SO hung up on this guy. There is no reason to get offended when someone is trying to help you out. You are really young and, right now you think this is the worst thing in the world, but trust me one day you'll look at it completely differently. I've been through more than you can even possibly imagine. I don't know what you WANT to hear but apparently you aren't finding those words here. None the less, I truly wish you the best. I'll pray for you. - 5 months ago
they don't give up on a amazing relationship! it might have been an amazing relationship to the girl but it obviously wasnt to the guy as he would not have given up if it was
(Age:Under 18)
When: 5 months ago
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 5 months ago
