How long can it take a shy & nervous guy to work up the courage to ask a girl out? Assuming he REALLY likes her and doesn't know what to say around her when they're alone.
If a shy guy really like the girl, then he would find the way to ask her out. Don't assume that he is shy if he hasn't ask you because is just an excuse. Just need to give him the signals that you are interested too then that would help him to approach you more. Good luck!
It took my husband at least 2-3 months after he liked me to ask me out. He's the shiest guy I have ever met in my life. Even then, he didn't actually ask me. His friend asked me for him. According to him that's because they (his friends) were all bugging him relentlessly to call me and ask me out and he didn't want to right then. So finally one of the friends (who I went out with on one date so he knew my number already) called for him and then tried to pretend to be him. As if I wouldn't recognize the friend's voice after his endless calling back when we went out that time! But I played along and that was that.
I'm a bit of an anomaly. I'm an outgoing shy person, lol. About half the time I am RIDICULOUSLY shy and the other half of the time I'm SUPER outgoing. There's no in between. I don't know why that is. With my husband I was REALLY outgoing so I think that helped. We worked together and I was always talking and flirting with him. Like practically groping him. I know guys can be dense when it comes to reading girls but I don't see how he could NOT know I liked him all that time. Especially since we had this mutual friend who was a TOTAL loudmouth and I made sure that she knew how I felt. She ran and told me when he liked me so I can't imagine she didn't run right back to him and do the same! To be honest, he's such a shy guy that I truly expected I was going to have to do the asking. If his friend hadn't done it, I probably would have had to be the one.
This is interesting, see I KNOW he likes me, and I know he really likes being around me and talking to me (he never stops smiling!!), and he'll look for excuses to email and call etc (I work with him) but he'll never initiate an email or an IM conversation otherwise, and I feel like I'm bothering him if I initiate it (cos he never does). So I don't know how far to go with that. I'm afraid to flirt too much by contacting him in case I'm bothering him. I wish he'd initiate it. - 5 months ago
Answerer
Lmao. I have been with my husband 9 years and I STILL wish he would initiate conversations, lol. That's how shy he is. We're MARRIED and he's still scared to talk to me! He's a weird guy. It's not just me either. He doesn't even talk to his own parents. He's got issues to say the least! But I love him so I put up with it, lol. I can see why you would worry though. I wish I had some advice about how to get him to initiate or at least how to tell if you're bugging him! - 5 months ago
(Age:Under 18)
When: 5 months ago
asked Yesterday
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
