Okay, I'm a practical guy. By practical I mean I put function over form in everything. I wear clothes made out of thick, durable materials like denim not because of how it looks but because I like the idea of wearing clothing that is durable and protective. I don't wear jewelry or have tattoos or piercings because I don't see the point in having something that's "just for show" and doesn't actually have a use. I don't have any posters or pictures hanging up in my bedroom because I don't see the point, and to top it all off I'm highly sensitive to ethylene, which means I can't really be around n-propyl alcohol (the medical kind, not the drinking kind) or girls wearing perfume/cologne without having a small reaction that totally screws with my senses of taste and smell.
I know that guys like me aren't exactly every girl's cup of tea, but I'm wondering how many girls really are strongly put off by this sort of thing, and how many wouldn't mind it. It's gotten in my way a lot in the past (specifically the ethylene sensitive thing. you'd be surprised how many girls don't wanna be around a man they can't wear perfumes around) and it's really starting to bug me, but it's who I am and I'm not gonna change myself to try and meet a girl.
It's a very small consideration and nothing to worry about. I wouldn't even worry if the guy never paid for anything. as long as he had a good personality. There are more important things than that. As long as you have something going for you. it's fine. I actually think it's sexy when a guy doesn't care what he looks like.
Well, first of all, definitely never change, for ANYONE.
Now, I'm going to be totally honest with you. How you described yourself, isn't very, appealing. Its not a turn off though. I guess what I'm really trying to say is, it would be difficult to date you.
UNLESS, you do your own thing, and you let the girl do her own thing. There won't be any conflicts if you keep an open mind to the way others think, or do things.
Like, if your girl likes to look nice and stuff, "for show" and it doesn't bother you, then NO PROBLEMA! :) As long as you don't make her feel bad for wanting to do the things you don't agree on, then you will be just fine. I mean, we all have our own opinions on tattoos, posters, jewelry. etc. You just have to be open about it. You said your personality has gotten in the way in the past. It just means that those girls weren't really meant for you. And trust me, you are better off.
Just wait till you find the girl who can love you for YOU. She's out there, just be patient.
By the way, when you do meet a girl you like, don't start off by telling her all these things, right off the bat. I mean, try to get her interested in other things about you. Like your smile. Your jokes. You intelligence. etc. Once a girl is interested in the + side of you, it won't be hard to get her to accept the - side. ;)
For the most part, I don't have a problem with anything you said, but I don't agree with you on tattoos and piercings. Regardless of what purpose they may (or may not) serve, I don't see anything wrong with them--if that's what you like, go for it. And most people get tattoos that are meaningful to them, so they're not just for show.
But everyone is entitled to their opinion, so I don't think your views on body art are that big a deal. As long as you didn't try to force your way of living on me (aside from the perfume, but I have an allergy problem with perfume anyway), I wouldn't care.
I know a lot of girls that would be totally fine with it. Personally though, I guess I love tattoos and things that are dangerous, so I probably wouldn't be interested. The cologne thing wouldn't be a probably, it would just be the lack of adventure that would be a problem for me.
See now what I want to know is how a dislike for things that are "just for show" in any way translates to a lack of adventure. I love excitement and I love being spontaneous, I just dislike things that are just for show and don't serve a purpose. - 5 months ago
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No sarcasm included, I truly am sorry for the confusion of my statement. I didn't mean that you can't be adventurous without tattoos. I assumed that by informing us how practical you are, you were implying that you just aren't that dangerous. To me adventure is riding a motorcycle 150 mph and jumping out of planes and things like that, and I don't see those things as all that practical. Frankly, they are probably stupid, but they give me that rush, and that's what I meant. - 5 months ago
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I am a speed freak with a thing for motorcycles and driving recklessly. I am actually currently looking into buying a motorcycle to replace my old one.
When I said practical, I don't think what I meant was understood. All I really meant was that when it comes to the way I dress and the material possessions that I own, function takes priority over form and I have a strong dislike for things such as jewelry that are purely decorative and don't actually DO anything or serve a purpose. - 5 months ago
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However, you'd be surprised how many people make the mistake of assuming that a guy without tattoos or piercings is, by default, boring. Maybe he's just too indecisive to want something permanent on his body that he knows he may not like in 2 years. Maybe he doesn't like wearing things that set off the metal detectors he has to go through walking into work every morning. Not liking tattoos or piercings does not in any way translate to boring. Maybe it just means he doesn't like them. - 5 months ago
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And as far as clothes go, what's wrong with wanting to wear clothes that offer protection? That actually comes FROM riding motorcycles. I've been doing it for long enough to know that the kids riding around with shorts, shirt,or protective gear of any kind on are idiots who older riders refer to as SQUIDs (Stupidly Quick, Under dressed, and Inevitably Dead). I just grew to like the feel of wearing protective clothing that can withstand impacts, rips, and don't mind sacrificing style for it. - 5 months ago
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In fact, just the other day I saw a young kid on a sport bike wearing shorts and no helmet have an accident while riding down the street doing a wheelie. - 5 months ago
I personally doesn't care if a guy wear a cologne or not. As long as he is clean looking and have good hygiene that all I care. I don't want guy to change himself so he can fit into my world. I mean the reason I am with him because of him and his personalities.
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