Both are subjective, to a degree. All women have different taste in looks, and women seek different levels of confidence in their men. I personally find arrogance incredibly unattractive, which then influences the way I look at a man physically. For example, when I know a guy is arrogant, what was a charming, attractive smile, turns into a smarmy, arrogant sneer.
At the same time, a guy who might not have everything looks-wise can really turn my head if he seems to be comfortable with himself and is willing to let his less visible qualities shine.
I definitely say a balance of both. Too much confidence is just as bad as (or worse than) too little. And let's face it. looks are going to matter to some degree. I can't see myself ever being with a guy who is just butt ugly. I have dated plenty of unconventional looking guys, even some that are less attractive. But I don't think I could ever do UGLY. And honestly I think if my guy was TOO hot I might have a problem with that too. Probably sounds crazy but I think it's honest, lol. And besides, I AM crazy. Lol.
Confidence absolutely! Women are instantly attracted to a man who is confident in his own skin, even if he's average looking. A lot of guys have this theory that women always go for assholes. I think women are highly attracted to confidence, and sometimes confidence comes with cockiness and being self-absorbed or being a douchbag (excuse my french but I have no better way of putting it).
You have to have a combination of both because I have met guys who were hot but they were too confident and that was a turn off and I have met guys who were not so great looking but they had confidence. You have to compensate for what you are lacking. Hot guys have more confidence ugly guys have low confidence. I just hate it when I would have to make the first move because he would never but then I'm turn off that he didn't have the balls to come up to me first. So at this point confidence is more important but looks are right up there.
Confidence, but he has to have something special about his face, different than others, I mean some attractive feature about it. Can be his nose, eyes or lips, or face shape. Also he must take care of himself, dress in a cool and neat style, and have some aspects of personality I desire, like be ambitious, honest, cool and know how to have fun, when it's only me and him ;)
I think both are important but if a guy doesn't have any good looks -- like chubbby and doesn't have a cute face, he doesn't have to be insanely hot (I know I'm a little shallow when it comes to this) but I look for looks then confidence but he needs both. Even though guys that are cute usually have confidence.
I bet a good follow question is exactly what "looks" mean to you. I bet it's a combination of things, if a guy is short AND chubby, but he's clean cut, super fun, very interesting, knows how to dress for his body type, and is very confident about himself... you'll talk to him. (btw, I'm not chubby or short ;P ) - 5 months ago
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Well I don't think looks are super important, and I'm like 5'2 so height usually isn't a problem with me ;) but I honestly can't stand when guy's have 'chub' on their stomachs, especially in bathing suit season. Like they need some muscle, you know, like some pecs and possibly abs. If he's confident and dresses good for his body type, then I guess personality comes in effect then because if he can make me laugh and isn't conceited because I hate that then that okayyyy=] - 5 months ago
Confidence guy but not too arrogant because arrogant is annoying and unattractive. I look for looks but looks with a confidence. As long he have a good hygiene and look clean with a confidence then I'll talk to him.
Yeah, there's a fine line of being overly arrogant. I think arrogance comes from "fake" confidence. It's like some guys pretend to be so damn confident that they're insecure about their insecurities... and they put up a wall block, or bite back really hard keep all intruders from seeing their ..well..faults.
Good hygiene and clean look.. super important! You can be average looking guy but if you don't know how to clean up, no chance. I like your answer. - 5 months ago
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