I've only been on one date and she was a great girl. Only problem is, when I asked her out on a second date she said she was too busy for the next few weeks. I was a little annoyed because I don't want to waste my time if she's not interested, after all there's plenty more fish in the sea. So I ask her, via text message, if she is interested - 'cos if not I'll move on. She hasn't replied and in hindsight perhaps it was putting too much pressure on her. It was an honest question though, I don't want to play games, although I realize that maybe it could be conceived as arrogant or that I was losing the mystique of the thing.
Update: I've indicated that I am interested BTW.
3 months ago
Update: Finally replied, though not interested.
2 months ago
No, I think its great that you took the initiative to ask. It shows your not there just to play games. You probably went wrong though when you used a txt to ask if she was interested. There are too many ways a simple sentence can be skewed. She might have taken it the wrong way. I'd call her and explain your position, re-ask if she's interested, and just try to stay away from being confrontational.
No it's not being too forward your just getting to the point and like you said you don't want to waste any time if she's not interest. If she said that she is busy for the next few weeks but does not keep in contact with you via text or IM then she may not be interested but will not tell you straight. She figures if she doesn't respond back to your call or text you might get the hint and leave her alone. So my suggestion would be to not try and contact her and if she does get in contact with you then she may have been really busy but don't pine over her waiting for her to respond, move on like you said there are plenty of more fish in the sea.
Yea I agree with what you said. It's a shame because she was a really nice girl and she seemed interested, but I don't want to waste my time.
I just hope she's not interested but playing games - hard to get etc., because otherwise she's missed out on a good guy. - 3 months ago
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It's ok to leave the window of opportunity open for her just don't be waiting for her. Who know she could be playing games with you but it shows one thing you wouldn't like about her, that she plays games. So go out and have fun and I'm sure some girl will appreciate the good guy in you. - 3 months ago
Be patient. See what happens. She might have some distractions going on in her life. She might consider that something you talk about, not text about. If she said she would be busy, maybe she was honest and is. Respect her and let her get back to you. If she doesn't, by the time you see her again, ask her, tentatively, so she isn't pushed into a corner. Let her know you are interested in her by your presence, patience and respect, whenever it works into her schedule. If you find out she was lying about being busy, ask her about that, without accusing her. She probably has enough accusation in her life, and you don't want to be identified, or agreeing with, the enemy of her soul, who is the accuser. If someone accuses her, recognize the source and listen for the voice that says, "okay, she might have done ___, but she is hurting, afraid and worthy of your attention and (brotherly) affection." If the time comes for other forms of affection, count it a blessing and privilege to be earned, and treat her like the princess she is. If she doesn't treat you like a prince, then she is not acknowledging that God made you, and looks on you as a child of the Most High King and, as such, His prince.
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