my friend told a guy she knows that I might be up for a date with him. he asked me out, we had a good time, went to dinner, walked on the beach, held hands. it was very innocent, no kiss even.
he called my friend afterward and asked her what I like and started making plans for my birthday in two weeks.
i didn't want to lead him on, he was a cool guy, but I didn't really want to date him/ deff didn't want to enter a serious relationship with him.
when I told him this he seemed okay. he called me the next night demanding to know if he had done something wrong on the date, and I said no.
he said "oh, well if you pull shit like this when you get to college you're going to get yourself in trouble." and hung up.
what? shit like what? am I not allowed to go out on dates and decide the guy is not for me?
Update: EDIT: so he called me last night at around 1:30 and played that chris daughtry song "over you" into my voicemail. so I guess I agree with you that I didn't do anything wrong and he's a just wounded by rejection.
2 months ago
Of course your allowed to. That's what the first couple of dates are all about, finding out if you actually like the person or not. I don't want to label him as a Psycho like everyone else here because he's really just doing what every guy does, except he's a bit more verbal about it. Most guys are pissed if it didn't work out with someone they liked. The "college shit" statement at the end was just his way of making himself feel like there was something wrong with you and not him (which of course isn't true, but its juts a self-defense mechanism).
"I not allowed to go out on dates and decide the guy is not for me?"
Of course you are, that's the whole point of a first date with someone you don't know. You get it, the guy obviously doesn't. He must have confused your hand holding for more than innocent. to assume you automatically liked him (phoning your friend etc) without even talking to you about it first is somewhat hasty.
Ok! He seems sort of weird. The right is totally yours to decide who you date of don't date! No dumb ass can take that away from you! Its good you decided against him!
Of course you are allowed to date who you like and then make a decision!
Sounds to me like he was just in to you and was just bitter that you weren't feeling it.
Lots of guys out there, with a level of maturity, take it with good grace when you tell them you don't want anything more from them. In fact, most guys do. He was obviously just a rotten apple and try not to waste any more of your time thinking of it.
You will be fine when you get to college and you won't get yourself in trouble! I'm thinking he was just upset and lashed out. Ignore him and have fun!
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