So I finally got up enough courage to start talking to this really shy guy. We made plans to catch a late movie and I drove to his hometown to meet him to go to where the movie was playing.
The car ride was about 35 minutes there and back and both times we had lots to talk about and he asked me a lot of questions and stuff. So the convo went better than I expected since he's so quiet normally. On the way to the movie he asked what I'm doing tonight because he's coming to my town to a party for the night and was wondering if I was going to be there so I figured this was a good sign already.
So we get to the movies and he's all gentleman like and open the doors for me and paid for the movie even tho I argued with him to pay for it lol :) but he was super sweet. We got to the movie and of course it was hard to talk there so we both kept pretty quiet. Nothing too exciting happened during the movie.
On the way out we kept talking and the ride home was pretty fun. We had a lot to talk about after the movie. It went so much better than I expected. We got to my car where it was parked and I thanked him for taking me out and he said he'd see me tomorrow.is it bad that he didn't try to make a move? I tried to make it less awkward by getting out of the car fairly quickly. Beings that he's so shy and gentleman like I didn't expect him to push it though. So what is everyone's opinions.good date bad date? what should I expect now? I hope I didn't give him a bad vibe that I didn't try to kiss him or anything but some people don't do that one the first date right?
lol you are putting so much pressure on yourself. not every first date ends in a kiss. by the sounds of it he is a gentlemen, and a gentlemen want necessarily kiss on the first date.
i think it sounds like it went incredibly well, definitely don't force a kiss because then it becomes awkward. I think he will get in touch with you and I wouldn't be surprised if the kiss comes on the next date.
i don't really kiss a girl on the first date, unless I have had a beer or two and am totally getting the vibe from her.
I was shy when I was younger and just asking a girl for a date was torturous, let alone knowing what to do at the end of it. If you want to see more of him give him some gentle encouragement without being pushy. Maybe make a few suggestions about doing some other stuff like going for a meal, etc. If the momentum comes from you he'll be relieved. Would've made my life a lot easier, I can tell you!
I basically had this date from the side of the guy so trust me it's fine, he just didn't want to hurt things by going for the kiss too fast, or at least that's how I felt. I think it's a good date though next time I recommend you making the first move, besides being extremely attractive you would take the pressure off of him and give him the confidence to take the lead next time.
Thanks for the advice its definately nice hearing the guys point of view beings that you had a similar situation. Hopefully he doesn't get uncomfortable if I try to make a move on him though :S - 3 months ago
Man I think I'm considered a shy guy and I have to say if my fiance hadnt given me a nudge or two in the right direction our relationship wouldn't have gone anywhere. All I can say is make it easier but, don't do it for him because he needs to make the progress. By this I mean give him a slight peck on the lips and that should encourage him to give you a kiss. Make an excuse to touch his hand and that'll encourage him to hold your hand. Just give him a few nudges and soon he'll be doing it on his own.
Good advice....I just don't want to push too much and scare him away though. I want to make sure that everything is headed in the right direction first, but that sounds like a great way to go about it. thank you! :) - 3 months ago
That seems good. Shy guys can be great in relationships, but they need help getting there sometimes. I've no clue if you'd be comfortable with this, but getting it in your head that you might end up making the first move wouldn't be a bad idea. They just kind of suck at that. But they really are good at the other stuff, so if you give them a little help early on, you'll be rewarded.
This is assuming, of course, that you like him and all that. If you don't, then just disregard everything I said.
No I really don't think you should read to much in to this. I used to go out with someone who sounds very similar to your guy. I had to pluck up the courage to ask him out and we didn't have a proper kiss until out 3rd date!. I think he just needs a bit of encouragement as he probably doesn't want to push it with you. What I did was on our second date he dropped me off outside my house and when I went to say bye I leant over and gave him a peck on the lips.Then when we had our 3rd date I went to do the same thing BUT he decided to kiss me back properly before I had a chance to move away!, and he is a really shy guy so he obviously just needed a nudge in the right direction--i think this is the case in your situation as well. Try it out and see what happens, I bet it all goes fine and he is waiting for you to make the first move.
Thanks I'll definately will try my best to do that. I'm a little scared of him rejecting me, but I think I'll be more upset with myself if I don't try at all. I'll keep everyone updated. I think if the moment is right, I may try to lean in and give him a kiss when I tell him bye after the party tonight. :) - 3 months ago
He probably just wanted to talk and get to know you first. Maybe the next date he'll try something. If he doesnt, you could try kissing him. He probably is just shy and really likes you but doesn't wanna be rejected by the first move. he sounds really nice and doesn't sound like an asshole. so I think you should go for it:)
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