How do women approach American men?

What you can do with an american guy that you want to go with but arnt intereated in sex yet. Bring up a topic with something that is going on at the time. Like this place has cool music. Or is this crazy song on again. Or you can ask about his clothes~wear did you get that shirt it looks nice. As soon as you do this you are bringing the conversation down to an earthly level. The guy will read in between the lines and keep the conversation platonic or on a normal level. Once you find out what his interests are after you have talked preferably longer then a 20 minutes. Ask him to if he'd like to do one of the things he mentioned. If he said he likes football games say hay would you like to catch a game on tv. Or he like pizza want to go get a pizza I know this place that has extra pepperoni. By revealing you like food or can down a bear you also are showing your human. This will take the sex out of the situation. The guy won't bring it up as quick if you do this.

Just keep approaching them (or letting them approach you) until you find one who doesn't want to just have sex.

Then, don't approach them. Just hang out and look APPROACHABLE. They will eventually approach you.
If not, then you can start up a friendly conversation with some.
Dont flirt right off the bat!
Keep it kewl, and friendly.
Watch the news and sports and stuff so you have something to talk about.
Pay attention and try to get a feel of what kind of person he is. Rude, nice, sensitive, funny, goofy, horny. etc.
If you pay attention to the things they say, the way they look at you, their reactions, then you will have a basic idea.
If it seems like they are just looking for sex, or he's rude, or makes you feel uncomfortable, then politely leave his area.
Although sex is always on their minds, not all guys are just after that. Some actually enjoy conversations, and bullshitting.

i think it depends on the kind of guy you approach. if you approach a shy guy he will like the fact that you talked to him first. any guy who thinks you are a slut just because you talked to him first is a jerk anyway and someone you shouldn't waste your time on. if you want to wait till a guy approaches you first.try flirting and then ask if he wants your number to hang out, that way he feels like it was his idea even though you offered your number. that's how I've done it and ended up with a great guy. hope this helps you.

lol, I agree. Find a middle ground, approach but play hard to get. "Subtle flirting." I hate doing that but it is what worked for me. Before I would not approach them out of fear of being labeled "slut," and exactly what you said, they'd think I was stuck up. Then I changed to approaching them, and they'd either auto imply I wanted to sleep with them or they'd fast-but-gradually treat me like "third-grade meat" (butcher market simile) and take me for granted. This also goes for Mexican Americans who come here at a very early age (5 years old-6 years old) and have lived a mostly American (not parental-Mexican) nurturing life. They are actually worse to where most think too high of themselves and have complexity issues due to the underlining discrimination, so stay away if you can. I hate to stereotype, but I've dated enough people to where I know this.