Confused about Guy's Behavior?

may he have some problem or he didn't get what you are looking for. tell him that what you expect and see if he responds

I had this happen to me like 12 years ago and I actually posted a question about it a while back when something else got me thinking about it. But right after that I decided I should just ask him. In my case this guy had been trying to get me to go out with him but it was one thing after another keeping us apart and we ended up becoming more like friends. Then we hooked up once and he went back to "normal" the next day. Couple months later we hooked up again and again it was back to "normal" the next day. After that we basically became best friends and he is still my best friend. So anyway. I asked him about it and he said that since I never acted any differently either, it just NEVER occurred to him that I was interested in him "that way". He just assumed I was having fun in the moment and nothing more. In fact he seemed a little upset that he never knew, lol. So ok, he didn't make a move. but then it sounds like neither did you! So. why didn't you make the move?

My point? It could be any number of things. Could be he was just having fun and you happened to be there to be the one he was having fun with. Could be that between being busy and then him being sick, he thinks you don't want to do anything anymore. Could be that he has a short attention span and has moved on to someone else already, lol. Who the heck knows? Best thing would probably be to just ask him what's up but like someone said already. you might not get an answer or he could lie, particularly if all he's looking for is someone to keep him warm when he's got nobody else.

I guess you should ask yourself what you want from him for one thing. If you're just looking for some fun then I say next time you are together, why not try making the move yourself or just ask him what's going on? If you want a relationship or something then suddenly making out with him one day probably wasn't the wisest way to go about that in the first place, so. hopefully that's a lesson learned. But if that's what you want then I would definitely be on guard since the odds of him messing with you or just wanting some convenient fun could be pretty high. But I would still probably ask him. just being aware that he might not tell you the truth and you could be setting yourself up to get hurt.

I'm dealing with this same problem right now and have decided to just confront him about it. Not in a mean way just in a "Hey, what's going on?" kind of thing.
So I don't really have any advice for you other than that. If you want I'll let you how things go with me.
Good luck! :o)

RED FLAG! (been there done that). He's either hiding something he is comfortable sharing with you, or just shopping around for another girl and keeping you as back-up plan. Careful not to attach to this person too much (at all!) until you find out what's going on. Try not to think about it and put your mind on other things. PS: Don't call him asking why. You'll just get BS back, if that.