Guys do ask me out. But, while they are I am constantly comparing them to that perfect guy, You know that guy you want who is up to your wanting, we all have one lol. But my question is should I stop it, and give these guys a chance? I mean yes I know that I'm only 15. 16 in May and all but do I need to start searching for love now? Or should I just start dating and hope he comes?
Don't rush love. Love is not worth rushing. That is an eternal virtue. Let it come with time and maturity. You don't want to get into relationships you'll regret later/ for the rest of your life. Enjoy the days of your youth and don't get sidetracked by what the media says or anyone else says about boyfriends and relationships etc. Keep that guy in your mind and stay faithful, taking less than perfect or 2nd best will only cause break up or unfulfilled relationship/ marriage in the future. But don't keep your "dream guy" cast in stone, but be reasonable with the guys and go along with them as it comes. Only when you know you and a guy has a bond and could work together and is compatible consider a "relationship", not when you only have feelings, but no reason. So my answer is that it is not wrong at all, but radically the opposite. It is good! If only everybody would do that there would be no break ups/ spoiled marriages/ divorce/ abortion/ STD's etc.
You should absolutely NOT wait for a "perfect" guy. First, you might not really know what a perfect guy is. Sure, you have this image in your mind of what an ideal guy would be. But one thing is have an image, and the other thing is actually experiencing being with that kind of guy and seeing whether or not he makes you feel as well as you thought he would. For instance, many women dream about meeting a nice, sweet guy, but once they do... they find him to be passive and boring.
Secondly, there is no way of knowing when that perfect guy will come into your life even if you know exactly what you want and why.
Thirdly, one of those guys who are interested in you might not be perfect (who is?) but could be perfect in a way for you. Why not give them and yourself a chance to get to know them with no pressure and see how things go...?
I used to have a perfect guy check list too, but you find a guy who at first seems to fit and the relationship can be a disaster, or you can meet a guy who you'd never thought would interest you and when you get to know him he really does. I say give them a chance and get to know them, go on a date or two, or try to be friends. You don't have to commit to anything, but getting to know a lot of different guys (even just as friends) will help you better understand what it is you want (whether or not it is one of them). Hope that's helpful!
Well, Your only 15 and I was there once and I no what you are going through! I think you should date some guys if you want to or you can be single for awhile it is your choice. But, on the other hand you will find the right guy and it probably won't be now because you are in high school and still young and trying to figure out what you want to do with you life! When you get older you will find the right guy! You will no when the time comes believe me! So if you want to just date some guys don't just asume that he is the right one! You are too young to figure if it is going to last or not! If you starting dating a guy that you really no and your guys date for 3 years and keep going without breaking up then maybe he could be the one.But, people do change when they get older! Sweetie your time will come to find the perfect guy and to be with him the rest of your life you are just going to have to wait and find out! So for now you can date guys but don't be like some girls and date then break up after like 3 months or 3 weeks and date a different guy don't do that because that is what hoe's do! So go have fun and your time will come when its ready to but the time is not now!!. Tell me how everything goes for you if you want! Good Luck!
I agree with -dreams. You're really young and have a lot ahead of you. If there's a guy who asks you out, who you do find attractive, go out with him and try not to compare him to your "ideal guy" at the beginning, but just see what you like about HIM. You never know, one of these guys could be your ideal guy but since your not giving them a chance and judging them too quickly you'll never know. Again you're still young and you'll have plenty of time to figure out your perfect guy, but for now.... just have fun.
You're young, you should be playing the field. It's good that you know what you want, but you might be missing out on some awesome guys because you're holding out for too high of expectations. Besides, you think you know who your ideal guy would be, but the quirks and unexpected qualities are what make people who they are. You've got to be a little more open-minded and give some guys a chance, you never know what you might come across and it may be a pleasant surprise.
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