21 year old male - undercover virgin

dont open your mouth widely and don't thrust your tongue right in! just lightly kiss her lips opening your mouth just enough to have her lip in yourmouth. then just go with the flow

The number one thing you have to remember, is to just go with it. Don't worry if it's good or not because that will make it terrible. Just let yourself go. Do what she does because that's obviously what she likes in return. To start off just kiss her lightly and then part her lips with your tounge. After that, you're in just follow her lead. No girl ever complained about a guy who kissed her softly and passionately. ;)

I can teach you how haha! lol. You know this situation reminds me somewhat of the old movie "Twins" and you playing Arnold Schwarzenegger role lol, you might not have seen that movie but anyways. You need to make your first kiss with a girl who would take advantage of it. And first rule is not to put pressure, just let it flow. It depends on how you want your first kiss either french or regular, but I'd recommend you the regular one,because honestly when I was first kissed by a guy with a french kiss, it went total nuts! I got lost when he stuck his tongue in my mouth and I shouted out loud that I have gum in my mouth, people around us started laughing and I felt so weird. You can't expect a perfect kiss at the first time, it develops with practice haha. Good luck!

Your putting to much pressure on yourself. don't thinks so much into it and just go for it. if you suck at kissing, then so what? there will always be more girls to hook up with. plus, we've all been terrible at it at one point in time. practice makes perfect so get it over with. as far as you being a virgin.....hold on to that! girls find that extremely attractive from 18 and up.

To the first girl's answer - I suppose some cultures encourage waiting until you are married and abstinence is the norm. That's your choice, fine.

But that's not what he's asking...so, to answer the question posted, I would suggest going out with a few girls that you don't really like and giving them a good night kiss for practice. Don't put too much pressure on yourself...lots of guys who have kissed hundreds of times are not good kissers.

I think the movie "Hitch" had some good pointers on making your move. Take things slow, don't slobber, chew gum or a mint before hand, open your mouth a little (like French Fry size, not Big Mac) and get some tongue action going (softly and slowly).

You've seen it done thousands of times on TV, in movies, in real-life...it's very easy and your instincts will likely kick in quickly. If you are still nervous, tell her you're a little nervous because you really like her and want the "magic moment" to be, well, magical. Girls love that stuff and chances are she'll smile and take over or do something otherwise encouraging.

Good luck!

Wow I really adore you..
you should get married before get your first kiss.
why must everyone needs a first kiss?its really weird...what is so special about first kiss?it is lame and disgusting...
I advise you if you think everyone should have a first kiss to be cool you are wrong...you are virgin right? you are pure and never been touched so you are clean...nowadays people are weird and being not clever..they think that they are so civilised so they could do anything like premarital sex,kissing in the crowd without the feel of embarrasment, wearing sexy clothes even naked in front of others! but the truth is they are soo not civilised and act like the animal! think about that..

I was your age when I lost my virginity. Had kissed a few girls prior but nothing much.

Get a bit of liquid courage if you need it, and just go for it. My first time was amazing, I won't go into details but the girl I was with was really into me so it didn't matter too much that I didn't know what I was doing and we both had an amazing evening.

I wouldn't put too much focus on "experience = quality". I've been with girls who've slept with many guys who were downright awful in bed, and I've been with less experienced girls who were amazing.

I don't know what else to say other than I was in your boots not that long ago and felt the same way, but once you just do it and get it over with your attitude will change.

WHAT KIND OF SPORTS CAR? (looks like your answer has already been answered and I saw sportscar)

Well the kiss has been explained over and over again and I think they have all given good advice and I am like you in a way that Im still a virgin at 20 but I have already had my first kiss... Kissing pretty much just comes natural to most anyone and when you are liking a girl enough to kiss her you won't be thinking about how bad you are just how good that kiss is anyways! To answer your last question as to why girls aren't aggressive towards you it is most likely cause even though you have a great everything you don't have the confidence that should come with that!! When they see a guy like you they think that you should be really sure of yourself but because you are still a virgin and have not had your first kiss you are most likely more shy and less confident about yourself and that is why women aren't aggressively after you!!

I've been told to be a very good kisser, so I'll tell you what I do:

First thing, you have to be within a foot and a half of her, don't lunge into it.

Your lips have to stay soft, maybe finish firm. Women usually tell me they don't want tongue the first time, so wait until she starts responding a lot (changing her hand placement, pushing her body/face into yours, tilting her head).

You tilt your head at about 45 degrees so your noses don't clash each other.

Do not exhale on her while you're kissing, or at least not hard. Inhaling makes her think you're liking it.

What usually gives me the best response is to put your hand on her lower back and pull her into your kiss (pull her body into yours, make your grip start soft hand end up stern, then relax again once the kiss is done or when you're hand feels awkward). A great add-on to this is to get your other hand and put it on her upper back, between the lower part of her shoulder blades, and use this to pull your/her body closer. The key word here is close, because you just want to be touching eachother or pressing on eachother. I have recently tried putting my hand below her ear to softly hold her head and pull myself into kissing her. This touches their neck and seems to drive em nuts, but I would save this one for at least the second kiss.

When you do use tongue, you just slip it in and swab it in and out and back and forth at the same time. I never make it a hard tongue, and half the time I swab my tongue on hers. Don't leave tongue in longer than 7-10 secs per entry.

Girls just don't come searching for you, you have to let them know you exist. Whatever you think of yourself means nothing to a girl. If you want a girl to love you, they will base it off your personality and how well you two connect. Try getting out on the dating scene. You got friends, tell them to try and hook you up on a blind date, or you could even go club hopping. Are you attracted to one of your friends that are girls? It would be easier to start a relationship with one of them because they know about your personal life to some extent and you won't have to explain it all over.

Meeting girls is all upto you. There is a vast amount of women, finding the right one is whats going to be the hardest. Get out there and start meeting girls. Ask your friends if they know anyone who would be interested in you. Be yourself around girls, let them connect with the real you. Acting like someone your not will just turn out bad in the end when they see you for the real you.

If you had girls after you before and they weren't aggressive, try being more spontaneous. Girls like excitement, don't just give them a lecture about what your job is, your sports car, your business. Actions speak louder then words, so show them a good time and try not to be boring.