Ok-I'm dating this guy that I really like. He is tall, blue eyes, and blonde hair, gorgeous. Well this is probably a stupid question but he forgot his camera in my car and I was looking thru it. I saw pictures of him and his ex. She was blonde too, and they actually looked like that "perfect" couple. Then I looked at the pictures we had taken that day and noticed that we look so different. (I'm Puerto Rican with dark eyebrows, black hair, hazel eyes, olive skin). And it felt like we didn't "look" like a couple, just two random people smiling together!
And I know this is so stupid of me but I actually cried b/c I think that he won't actually fall for me because we are so different, that maybe he will prefer to find another blonde white girl. Another thing, his mom was coming into town and was going to meet me and asked him what I looked like and he said that she'll find out for herself. Maybe I'm just being too self-conscious but do you think it was b/c I'm not like the typical girl he dates? Why didn't he just tell her what I look like. I know that I'm probably being really silly about this but I can't help it. This is the first guy I've liked in a really long time.
Guys-would you like a girl that didn't look like you, maybe even the opposite of what you look like, or maybe even a different race? Would it bother you I wanna know?
This is american. You date whoever you want. I am asian and I date white girl. Trust me when we were in mall people always give a sec. Look. So what be proud that you can date outside the BOX :)
IN FACT INTER RACIAL DATING IS EXOTIC high 5 to you
It's fine with me! My first girlfriend in high school was Spanish.
If your guy didn't like you, he wouldn't be with you. And if you hadn't found those pictures, you wouldn't even know about that anyway. So just enjoy being his girlfriend and have a good time. ;-)
sexwiseman
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
If the girl was within my standards of attractive, I wouldn't care if she was dark-skinned. About not telling what you looked like to the mom, well hell, I never tell my mom because she is always nosy, so I always give her evading answers. Could be the same with this guy. His response doesn't indicate anything. You're being too self-conscious, and annoyingly paranoid. If you continue like hat, this guy will break up with you, not because of how you look like, but because of your insecure behavior.
Good to know about the mom thing. I have never mentioned to him that I have been insecure about our ethnic differences. But I agree that I do need to stop thinking about it. - More than a year ago
Have you met his parents or seen photos? He could take after his dad, and his mom could be Puerto Rican or Asian. - 6 months ago
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Genesis5
(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
My girl is Puerto Rican and Dominican. I am white. I am actually very white,.. to the point that I glow in the dark (she tells me that at least). So do I think that it is a problem? No, not at all. Actually, I think that it is very neat. The holidays and family reunions are great. My family is very southern, so we have that whole side, and cooking, traditions etc. Her family is from all over so we get all that cooking, their culture, dancing etc etc. Point is, I think it's a great thing to be celebrated.
But to be honest,... my opinion on the subject really doesn't matter, yours does. If the fact that you are interracial bothers you, then it will affect your relationship. In addition your families perception can affect your relationship as well, which is unfortunate, but it does. But if he means a lot to you, and treats you right, then typically your family and friends will see that, and care for him too (if they even have a issue with his skin color at all).
I don't know you or your family, but it sounds like you may be making more of an issue about this than he is. If he had a problem with it, I doubt he would have started dating you in the first place.
I hope this helps, and remember, it's the differences that we each bring to the table that make the relationship so interesting.
I think you're right. You are thinking too much. I'm an Asian. I've been with a white dude and living with him for quite some time now. We are very happy. And subject of being interracial couple was never a problem.
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