I met a guy, 3 years older than me, absolutely gorgeous, lovely, smart, funny, the best personality ever, and I really like him.
We met through work, and realised we lived quite close, so we would text and stuff, until one night he asked me to sneak out and meet up with him, so I did.
Things led to another, and before I know it, I have gone the furthest than ever before. Not that I regret it, at all!
He said he liked me a few times. And he said he'd never run away, or anything, and he was just so lovely.
So I really liked him, and we got to know each other more and more and talked at work a lot, and he'd talk about how many ex's he had,and I was completely fine talking about it.
But since that night, he hasn't said he likes me.
I'm not expecting him to tell me he loves me, not at all, because we aren't even dating, and when I ask him about the reasons for him and his girlfriends breaking up, he'd say it's because of school work.
Which makes me wonder. He calls me beautiful and gorgeous and stuff like that, and I love it, but I haven't heard him say he likes me.
Are we ever going to make things official? I don't know how to talk to him about this, I really need to know if he is worth my time, or if he is just f***ing around with me, getting action.
How do I discuss it with him? I'd love to be bf and gf, but we haven't spoken about it at all. Although he has stuff like 'my little girl'. I'm so confused. I feel like another one of his bitches.
BTW: after he went through my phone, which I let him do, I attempted at his, and he took it off me. I saw a few texts from girls with xoxo at the end and 'hey hun' at the beginning.
He also doesn't want anyone knowing about us.
Help would be muchly appreciated!
Update: I was really hoping you wouldn't say that. He seems so genuine, and he doesn't pressure me into anything. When me and a few friends got into a bit of trouble when we were drunk, he helped us out so much, missing an appointment he had.
More than a year ago
It sounds like he's just interested in getting physical with you. When he is paranoid about his cell phone, and when he won't have a simple conversation about important things, then he either has something to hide, or he just wants the sex and not a relationship.
Even though he helped with the friend, it just doesn't seem worth it, unless you just want a FWB.
This is very late, but I haven't been on here in so long. but you guys were right. I text him after I read your answers and I said I couldn't see him outside of work anymore and he said 'that doesn't matter, I didn't want anything more from me anyway'. i then said, is that because you have a girlfriend and he said, yes she says hello.
he literally broke my heart and since, I haven't gotten over him. even though I have a lovely boyfriend now.
i really should start coming back here, so helpful.
x - 10 days ago
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sexwiseman
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
Mayday Mayday Mayday! Any time a guy tells you he doesn't want anyone knowing about both of you, then that should be your red flag that you're being played. Sorry to break it to you, but if I liked a girl, what's the big deal about not telling people about you? Of course, he doesn't want others to know because then other girls will find out, and then his harem of bitches might fall apart. As always, I could be wrong, but I would place a bet I'm not any time of day.
Of course, you should know that guys will say anything to get in your pants. Once they've done the deed, why do they have to tell you they like you? Mission accomplished, now just wait for the right time to hit the eject button to get the hell out.
And of course he didn't want you to go thru his number cause then you might have seen the rest of texts from his other bitches, as you call them.
You can discuss what you want with him about you and him, but I'm sure he will tell you, that he is busy with school or work. Good luck.
Kk well if he doesn't want people to know about you that could mean he's playing you. I am sorry hun, but from what I have read about this situation...he could be just getting action and is not being honest. If he's already told you that he likes and all of a sudden stops making you feel like your awesome...hmm right after the taste of some "action" can only mean that he's not serious about any of it.
I agree with sexiwiseman up there. I would suggest talking to him straight on and ask him whats up?! I hope things work out.
ALWAYSclassy
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
Okay when a guy doesn't want anyone to know about you and him - that is a big thing. Don't play yourself b/c he is definetly trying to play you.
He might SEEM genuine, but that's how players are. How do you think they are so successful conning girls and breaking hearts? Because they seem like they're geniune and charming. After he's tired of messing around with you he won't seem so sweet then.
:( I thought he really cared. He doesn't mind people knowing about us, like my friends and a few of his, but he just doesn't want people knowing what we do, and people at work knowing. Please, someone have a different opinion! x - More than a year ago
Of course... each person has a head....you donthave to trust it with allyour heart...it justa orientation...you arethe onlyperson who is able to feel the situation. - 24 days ago
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babygirlx3
(Age:Under 18)
When: More than a year ago
Seems like he's in it for shit. But I may be wrong. If he said he liked you before it might of been because he did or he just wanted you to be comfortable around him and trust him so he can get in your pants. But now that he doesn't says he likes you, it could be that he is comfortable in where he stands and doesn't think you're going to say no to him when he wants to do things with you. He may feel he has you where he wants you and doesn't need to say anything because you won't go anywhere.
If he doesn't want anyone to know about you he may be with someone else but not telling you. And with his text messages he can look at yours but you can't look at his? He's hiding something, probably another girl that he doesn't want to tell you about.
If he calls you beautiful and gorgeous it's a compliment but it may just be like he likes you for what you look like and hasn't got a chance to like you for who you are inside.
To me he sounds like a player. Get what he wants and when he is done with you or you don't give him anymore, he will easily stop talking to you and etc.
So personally, you should talk to him first and see what's up, if he's lying you should know it. He will probably not look you in the eye or look up and to the left when he's thinking of something to say because looking to the left means using the left side of your brain (the creative side) and he's making up a lie. If he's lying or doesn't want anything to do with you, you'll find someone better. If he's for real and is thinking about having a relationship with you take a chance and go for it.
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