I met up with friend and met his guy from DC & his name is Steve. We chatted before we headed to Uptown. Brandee later came to me to say that Steve is totally into me. I am like, Great, but he is in DC. We then took a cab to downtown MPLS. Throughout the night we were chatting, dancing and having a great time. We were up the entire night talking about travel, music, quoting movies and just talking about life in general.
We ended up making out and talking and making out some more. I don't think I have EVER been kissed that way he had kissed me. My knees got week!! But I couldn't stop thinking of him after I left. Well, at work, I got a text. It said: "I know we just met but just wanted 2 say that I miss you. I know its weird but I do." He is feeling the same thing I have been!! So, I told him what I felt. we continued calling and e-mailing every day.
Well, after a month he came to visit me on Dec. 1st. He also lined up an interview at a company that is just literally around the building from where I currently started working this past August. The interview well very well as well the time we spent together. He even called me to say he misses me already when he got on the plane. Here is the thing now! He lost his job in DC, which the timing seemed great because he wanted to leave and was hoping to get hired by the company that he interviewed with. He is still in DC, but we haven't talked that much like before. I asked if we are still talking and he assures me that we are, even though the calls and e-mails hasn't come in as much. It seemed to change a week after he had visited me. He even called me when we was in the plane to leave for DC to tell me that he misses me already.
He said that he is in a funk right now and that he 'f ed up'. I don't know what that means, really? He never told me what he did wrong? I don't know if it means about me or the job search. We had never made any commitment to each other because of the distance situation. My last conversation was mid-Dec. He called me, but sounded very quiet. He apologized greatly for not returning my calls and messages. He mentioned to me that he is in a funk and that this company that seemed to like him and want to hire him is dragging their feet. It is was the holidays. I told him that I understand and that I don't want to smother him while he is busy with the job search. He said he just have been alienating his DC friends and still have to return a few calls to other friends and family. But he said he will call me, but hasn't. The last I heard from him was on NYE to wish me a good NY and have health and happiness in 2008. I haven't heard from him since then. I have called him on Monday, but I haven't heard from him. I want to give him his space to figure stuff out, but I don't want him to forget me.
Any thoughts?? I am so confused right now about things. Fate brought us together, but at the same time it is holding us apart.
Its best to continue to 'give him his space', not having a job and job searching can put anybody in a 'funk mood' and you are down and depressed and don't really feel like talking or having fun per se.
So, if its meant to be, and things work out better for him, he will call. But calling and texting and emailing and pushing him won't help the situation or you might just push him totally out of the picture. So let him be. If you have not heard from him in say a month, then give him a call to see if he is alright.
I never push men or call them constantly...I always give them their space - they don't forget if they really care about you, and they will appreciate you more as not being a nag.
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