How do I un-redneck him?

for one you need to realize you don't change people, people change on their own if they so choose, if he irrates you that much and you have talked to him about it then move on and don't waste anymore time on him. I had to learn the hard way through 11yrs. of marriage trying to change him, and he is to this day still a dumb-ass, if I would have known I could have moved on after about 6 months.

Don't change him... he will resent you for it. Rednecks are funny...

Every guy on the planet wants to know why girls like you go for guys like this. So, tell us. Why/how did you go for this guy?

You are not going to "un-redneck" him. Seriously.

Once upon a time, I fell in love with a guy and we'll label him a "redneck" just to keep communication going here (although I am not comfortable with that sort of stuff, generally). I loved him because, in addition to being physically attractive, he had real-life skills I did not possess...he could fix any problem with my car or the house (could probably build a damn house!), ect. and I felt safe in his company which is important to me. Unless a guy brings something useful to the table, I don't see the point in being in a relationship with him-and that goes vice a versa! Although I am pretty independent and have a good grip on practical skills myself, the Man was still strong and capable in the ways I was not and I thought he was a good balance to my artsy, educated, creative self.

Well, he was...for about a year or two. But in the end, he just couldn't understand me. The guy was wonderful and ment well, but he was simple (and I DO NOT mean that in an insulting way!). Most of the things that I value so highly (ideas, philosophies, politics, art, ect.) he didn't grasp at all...it was all about the 4x4 and the 250R! : ) So, that eventually drove a wedge between us that was just too wide. We're still very close friends with a lot of love between us and we can laugh at each other and enjoy our time together again, since the weight of a committed relationship is off our shoulders.

Point is: it isn't likely that you be able to change this guy to better fit your liking. That is never likely! Hopefully, you don't become resentful and he doesn't become resentful...because that IS likely. The best you can do is clearly explain to him that your feelings are hurt or whatever and hope that he cares enough to try. But don't start a pattern of hooking up with guys where you have a "plan" to change (or "un-redneck") them. Minor little adjustments are acceptable for both parties-a healthy give and take-but no one should be expected to reconstruct their Self, just to fit another person's ideal.

Why are you dating him then? No offense but if he can't even take the time to remember something as simple as that then he doesn't respect you. don't let someone be ignorant to you even if he is your boyfriend. He sounds like he's probably racist, or at least slightly prejudiced. I wish a ... would say something like that to me!