I've been in a relationship with a girl for months and she NEVER pays for anything, is that right??

Oh boy, I'm setting myself up for some bad stuff here but no, it's not right. I'm a girl. I want a guy to pay for me of course but for months? No. At some point, especially after months, it should become more of a give and take. But, don't blame her just yet. You might have conditioned her that way. For example, I had a friend who paid for everything all of the time. In the beginning he insisted and so, it was just the way it was. It took a while for me to catch on that he couldn't do it all of the time. He started saying little things. I could see he was trying to be tactful and I picked up on it quickly. I started shelling out too! Give and take...

NO YOU DUMP ASS! THATS JUST CUZ UR THE MAN AND SHES THE GIRL!


wow. men now and days!

oooh awkward. That's always such a strange situation. Girls now are expected to pay for their own stuff, and when a guy offers, we tell him he doesn't have to, but accept gracefully and thank him for the gesture. That way we don't look selfish or expecting. It's all this huge show.

She may either be incredibly spoiled, poor, or just naive. Next time you go out for the evening, say something like "Hey, if you spring for ice cream I'll get dinner"... or something similar. I usually try to share in some of the cost for the evening (especially if it will be expensive). Guys like to be treated too! :D

she could just be really old school! it doesn't meat she is cheat or you are being used. You have to see how she was raised and what people she is around. I have friends that split it etc. that go out. and I have girlf friends that when they have bf's they don't pay or find the need ( but they do buy them gifts, or when they go to the mall stuff ). She really could be feeling that you wan't to and doesn't wan't to hurt you "manhood " or w/e. I would kind of feel akward offering to pay , until I know you way better. its weird to ask a guy or tell her o I'll pay for this.

thats hella sheisty tell her, of course in a nice way, because you don't want to fight over soemthing so small, that she needs to pay for SOMETHING ha

How much have you spent? Maybe your mind is a little too money-oriented. Try doing some things that don't require cover charges or appetizers but its your own fault for picking an obviously not generous woman when you are obviously all about gifts and stuff. And there's just something not kosher and sleazy about wanting a chunk of your womans paycheck.

personally I don't think this is right to many women are still stuck on the idea that a guy should always pay, I don't see what's wrong splitting the price of things or even trading on paying for stuff, I mean a relationship is about being equal with your partner which means all aspects not just the ones you pick and choose.

How much have you spent? Maybe your mind is a little too money-oriented. Try doing some things that don't require cover charges or appetizers but its your own fault for picking an obviously not generous woman when you are obviously all about gifts and stuff. And there's just something not kosher and sleazy about wanting a chunk of your womans paycheck.

This is something you should talk about with her. For the old-school way is that men pay for everything. She may be old-school. Or maybe she doesn't want to overstep. For some men feel insulted by the thought of a woman even proposing to pay. My dad once told me that if I liked a guy and wanted to keep him around, to pay, since he can't be around if he is broke. So I usually do it as if I invite him, I pay. If he invites me he pays, and for most of my relationships it works out well. That way he isn't paying to see a performance he doesn't want to go to anyway and vis vera.

well wit me ex, for da first 3 months or so I paid for everything. then for the next 2 years I still gave him ever cent I earnt and never got anything for miself, yet he used to always call me a gold digging slut.

and I've noticed all mi friends bf's complaining about that.

but if what ur sayin is actually true, then I think yer mabye being used, or she's just the kind of chick that thinks men should pay for everything.

does she have a job?

that's not fair. she wouldn't die of starvation if you weren't around because she'd definitely find the money to pay for her own food if she didn't have a boyfriend. I know married couples who buy their own stuff with their own money. she should even treat you every once in a while. that's not cool. if it's been months, put your foot down. you are not an ATM, you are a boyfriend. a human. a person with a limited amount of cash flow that you spend your precious time making. she shouldn't be taking advantage of your kindness and that's exactly what she's doing, especially if she's just expecting it. that's the female stereotype move that I hate. I would never do that to somebody I was with cause I wouldn't want them to do that to me.

You can feel like that because you are human.. but if you have been dating for months.. and you feel this way let her know.. Personally.. I would be guilty of this because I expect it. lol .. It may sound bad. but I really would not be trying to use the guy.. just would think that's how it is suppose to be.. unless he told me he was tight on money etc. I think the best thing you can do is probably use that as your excuse for not wanting to go out..and see if she pays for things.. Because I would if I could afford to.. and wanted to eat dinner with my guy etc. and its a nice subtle way of saying " can you pay for stuff"

She might be getting too comfortable. Perhaps she thinks you don't mind or is so used to it, she doesn't think to pay. Bring it up to her and see how she reacts. If she is not using you, then she should have no problem spending her money also. If you are in a relationship, things are different and it doesn't mean the guy has to pay all the time, the girl can too.

It depends on who you ask. It is tradition for the guy to foot the bill but we live in the here and now! It is perfectly okae if the girl foots the bill on occasion or you guys can even go dutch and do the 50/50. It's natural that you feel this way because so far you give more than you recieve.

Definitely bring it up to her playfully or you can even do something cute like challenge her to a bet...Loser buys dinner! ha ha

I've never had a guy let me pay for anything (except my own plane ticket when we went on a trip) but usually in the beginning I will try to pick up a tab to let him know I'm not unwilling to do so. Some guys get offended, others just say no way, one guy I dated flat out told me I would never be paying for anything, and eventually I just stop trying. Instead I'll stock my fridge for them or buy tickets to things...

If you've just picked up the bill each time perhaps she just hit that zone where she sort of expects it & thinks nothing of it.

All I can say is that if you like her, talk to her about it. If that makes you uncomfortable try doing it subtly. For example: "Hey babe, I was thinking it would be fun to do dinner and a movie Friday night. Sounds good to you too? Great! How about you pre-order the tickets & I'll choose a restaurant..."I would think nothing of it but if she's using you that will get old really quick.

And no, I don't think you're wrong for feeling put out. But getting angry without giving her a chance to defend herself or make amends wouldn't be fair either...

I would bring it up casually if I were you. I really believe that it should be a mutual thing to pay, not just up to one person. If you feel that way too, you have to let her know that. If you don't, she won't know and you'll end up more annoyed, and you'll never know whether she is willing to change this behavior.

Sorry but I think that it's pretty jacked up that she won't help you out there. I'm so not like that I really think that it's nice to do like a 50/50 or switch who takes the the whole bill. I don't think that you're wrong here and I think that you should talk to her about it, but that's just me.

You're not being used, you're being a gentleman.

For many women, a man who pays for dates and opens doors is the only kind worth having. She thinks she's worth the price of dinner- you need to decide whether or not you agree.

Your feelings are understandable. But, she might have the impression that you like paying all the time. She might have experience with guys who pay all the time, so if that's the case she just might think of it as normal.

If it's taking a toll on your money, you'll need to tell her about it, no matter how hard it is. And then if she leaves you, it's probably for the best.

If she's a pretty girl, understand that she has choices and that she was eventually going to choose a guy who is doing well with money.

You can always obtain another girlfriend who is more in your price range and doesn't mind paying 50% of the expense, as long as you know she probably won't be very good looking.

But first, have that talk with your girlfriend and see how she reacts. Maybe she will see it your way and actually start paying more. You won't know until you discuss it with her.

That's beat.

in my last relationship we just put all our money in the one collective fund being together is in my opinion it is a case of "me and you against the world 50/50 we had a agreement that if we wanted anything other than essentials or food we would ask each other first. financially it worked

dude she's getting to used to the fact that your her "sugar daddy", let her know that you know its gentlemanly to pay for everything but it will feel good for you to get treated well every once in a while.

Sucks I know, women think we are banks and money is endless, but the truth is having a girlfriend will make you broke. But you can compromise, I dated this girl once and she agreed that I would pay for one date and the next time she would pay, or if we went to dinner and a movie, I would pay for dinner, she would pay for the movie. Tell her say look I can't keep paying all the time, and if see if you can alternate who pays, or you could just split the check every time. If she says no screw it man drop her and find another girl. Most girls will at least offer to pay but if she doesn't even do that then chances are she won't pay.