I have only asked a question here once before and this has something to do with my last question. Basically I broke up with this girl a while ago and took the advise from this site and have tried to move on from my last relationship.
I have not been in a relationship since but have been with other girls. Recently I meet this girl who is a really nice person, we have similar interests and have a lot in common but have not kissed, were just getting on really well and I know she likes me. However I have a couple of questions that I would really appreciate if someone could help me out with.
This new girl who I have become friendly with is not very attractive and I'm not sure how I feel about this. My friends are telling me that looks shouldn't matter and I can understand this to a certain extent. I know I am not ever to find someone who has everything I want but just need to get my head straight about this new girl .
Also my other problem is the girl I was with in my last relationship and spent many years with, I just can't get her out of my mind. I have just come back from holidays and was with some girls but now that I'm back I just can't stop thinking about my ex. I know she is not good for me, even my parents have told me this but maybe if I try start into a new relationship with the new girl I get on well with, similar interests but am not sure about her physical appearance I will forget about my ex. It's not that I'm shy with girls, I just live in a small town and find it a bit hard to chat someone up.
I'd really appreciate if someone can help me with this.
Looks shouldn't matter, true, But sometimes you just can't help it. To be honest my boyfriend really isn't quite the looker, but what you have to do is get to know them. sure at first I thought his nose was a little big but. once I got to know him. his nose suited him very well. lol this sounds stupid but I'm just trying to get my point across. As for your ex love interest. think about if she's really worth it. I had a boyfriend of three years and couldn't get him off my mind, I didn't think my relationship I was in now was ever going to work. but if this girl makes you forget, just a tiny bit, she's worth it. Chances are you might not be as good looking as you think, but everyone deserves love. This girl could be looking past the outward you and into your mind. Be careful. us ladies are some bad ass brain ninjas. but I think if you get to know more about her, kiss her and truly try to put your feelings in it, you'll find something in her. something wonderful. Look past looks, behind that body might be the soul of a goddess. you really want to pass up a goddess hun? Give it a try, try to forget. That other girl isn't worth your time. give this other girl a real chance and clear your mind of any others when your around her. It might just turn out to be amazing.
If I was in your shoes I wouldn't try to start a new relationship so I can forget about my past, Because these kinds of relationships go on in a good way for a while, And then the thoughts of your past relationship start crossing our mind and then you realize that you need some time alone to get over some things and come back emotionally available. Why don't you give your self some time(like 3 months). This could help you in 2 ways. First, The more time you spend single the more you get the chance to think about "you" ( Because when we are in a relationsip we mostly get too busy to think about ourselfs). Plus, Time is all one needs to move on. Second, When time passes, You can make up your mind about the new girl easier. Your friends are right, But you are unsure about her because you don't believe what your friends tell you with your heart. Trust me, If she is "the good one" for you then you wake up one day and realize that you want her and you don't care how she looks! Besides, physical appearance is something you can change[ Make ups, exerciseing( If she is over weight),etc.], But you can't change a persons heart. GOOD LUCK
Hey, thanks for your advise. I have been single for bout 6 months, maybe more and have tried to move on but anytime I try my ex keeps coming into my head even though I know she is no good but I'm not sure if this feeling is normal - 11 months ago
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Totally normal, I and my ex were together for 7 months and it took me 9 month to get over him and move on. - 11 months ago
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