A background check

His job. Not a big deal.

Been there had that. When you are dating someone that works for the govt. or a few other things it happens it comes up. If you care about them it shouldn't matter. I was honestly not phased at all I cared about him a lot, and I grew up in a weird little situation as far as govt and military stuff, so honestly I got a kick out of knowing what he was gonna pull up and that whoever did the check and him, if he got there results would find out little weird thing *nothing bad* that hadn't really come up in conversation that wouldn't be expected from those he had to do the check on *they also ran it on my immediate family.

honestly if it is serious she knows what your doing for a living and should just get it, yeah its weird, but just telling her that its a work thing its not personal there isn't anything to be afraid of and comforting the fears, because you can't always say why, and it isn't fully up to you always either.

Good Luck with that situation :)

Ha a background check id tell him to f*** himself!! his job has nothing to do with are relationship!!

I would be wondering what his job has to do with our relationship and why he's waited nine months to ask. A little fishy to me. Unless you're a mass murderer you should be ok LOL. But red flags would go up about this guy.

I don't think it should matter unless the girl has something to hide. Bbackground checks are quite simple. It's not like it would be bothersome to her. It would raise a few questions about what type of job you have tho...

Unless you're trying to stay off the government's radar, don't stress about it too much. I was in the military/government, so I know most of that paperwork will just disappear in a pile, in some antiquated building. It's just procedure to do background checks like that.

More interesting to note, if he is asking you if you would go through with the background check, he's wanting to make a move for the next level of relationship.

Sounds sketchy to me, I don't buy his excuse.

I think I can shed some light on this one! If he has a job in law enforcement, or a Government job (state or federal), he is probably telling the truth. Depending on where you work, and for what agency, you are probably a "cleared" employee. This means you have a security clearance; and that could go all the way to top secret or above. If you are co-habitating or married, both of you get checked. But the background check for the significant other is just a simple check. The one for the security clearance is very extensive, and goes into great depth. I'm in this realm with my job.

Or it could be none of the above, and he just wants to find out about you. Seems strange after 9 months. Doesn't sound like it though. It probably is for his job!