Get a freak'n job

Just refuse to pay for things. He seems like he was never pushed to pay for his own things. Go on dates that don't require you to pay and don't buy him things.

Sorry, your boyfriends a douche, and a freeloader.

LOL, sounds like he might be like that the rest of his life. Unless he is going to school, he should have a job. Or be like me go to college full time and work, it makes life go by fast, but not a boring moment. Sounds like you might want to reconsider being with him, maybe be with me :) LOL JK, even tho if you want I would have you, but if you really love him, then you should talk to him about it or maybe accept him for who he is if he makes you happy.

You should plan a vacation for the two of you some place expensive... where people like to party... maybe cancun... then when the time comes go with a friend instead if he doesn't have the cash

I don't honestly know how a man can respect himself if he isn't working or at least attempting to find work. You need to tell him straight up that you expect him to pay his own way and that if you want a long-term relationship to work, he needs to work. Literally.

First of all what does he do? What do you mean by off-season? Reason I'm asking is because my cousin Ryan is an underwater welder in Alaska. He only works for 4 months out of the year but gets paid enough during those 4 months to not have to work at all the rest of the year if he budgets his money right. Is your BF's job something like this? Cause if it is, then its possible the problem might be something more along the lines of his spending habits than his refusal to work. I know that if I made as much as my cousin does doing a job that was only seasonal work, I wouldn't want to work year-round either, and making as much as he does, I'd have the option to do just that.

If, however, this is not the case, the only thing I can say is that your Boyfriend is a deadbeat who will be nothing but a burden on you if you ever get married. NEVER EVER EVER get with a man who you have to change in any way to turn him into someone you can live with. Take him as he is or leave him. In this case, I think leaving him would be the more prudent choice.

It's not fair that he expected you to pay for everything. But if you *did* pay for everything, you've got no right to complain that he now expects it. You helped create this situation.

Shlei13 was correct: just stop paying for things.Find cheap/free ways to have dates. But remember: if you do so, you're changing the terms of the relationship, you're changing the ground rules. Prepare for consequences of one kind or another.

I was in the same shoes at one point. I was making all the money and I had all the responsibility of paying bills so I finally got tired of it and took some time off from my job, so he HAD to get a job. I didn't work for a month. Now that he knows how it feels, we both work and share the responsibilities. I know that not everybody's alike, but I've learned from my experience that people don't know how to understand how other person if they have never experienced it before.