If a man isn't your "type", do you feel he can't please you?

I detest people who are so shallow not to give a guy a chance at least once. However, every person has a preference for what person they like. Probably not height/looks etc. But attitude, style (gothic, sweet, etc) generally fall into that category. I hardly ever see an emo girl with a preppy guy, and there are reasons for that. But if someone won't even consider you because you're not "their" type, don't dismay. There's always someone looking for your type, and you'll never be disappointed as long as you don't dwell on those people who reject you. Love yourself, don't get hung up on "types" and you'll do fine ;)

I think I'm speaking accurately when I say that there are more important things than sex in relationships for women. It's not about you not being able to please her, it's about her not finding the qualities in you that she wants in a significant other.

In terms of friends-with-benefits, women aren't looking for nice guys. They're actually looking for guys who won't get attached and are kind of a**holes. And especially if you offered sex, of course they're turned off. There's something about that volunteering yourself for sex that rankles.

Do yourself a favor and go after a girl with more on her mind than sex. Nice guys don't always finish last, I promise. Sex is a factor but it isn't everything.

Well, I don't know if its from my past asses, or if I am just growing up. But, Who cares what a guy does or looks like as long as you have a connection. But, there are women out there that have to have the total package to date and have sex. I call them bitches. I don't like to judge people and I have an open mind. But, if you come on to strong, or if you act desperate and sleezy I am not interested. Have self confidence and act like you own it. That is what I find attractive.

Yeah, he COULD please me sexually, but it's more of the fact that I don't want him to. I'm not going to lower my standards just to up some guy's ego, sorry.

He just needs to look for a female that will have him. I don't know what else to say.

It depends on the girl. For me, if I'm not attracted to you, then you wouldn't be able to please me. I just wouldn't be able to get into it. But for other girls that have no standards or it doesn't matter who they sleep with, then I believe yes, because if they would sleep with you then obviously they are trying to get off!

Those are different value systems. Sex is valued at a biological level, while being nice and good are social values. The cross-over is rare and requires a person to actually control their perceptions and world-view, rather than going on their first take. It's possible, but it takes an actual commitment to it.

Think about a type of woman you don't like and envision what would have to occur for you to value her as a person over her meat suit. That's the same thing for a biology driven woman - it's hard work and, if she has her choice of suitors, not compelling.

$20 says it is possible and that the women who overcome the type hold-up are ones who have been burned by going with their favorite type in the past. They learned that the book doesn't always match the cover and decided to actually look at its contents first before buying.

He is a nice guy but he's not my type = you didn't play it right with them and that's just a nicer way to reject you. Its not your looks its how you tried to get with them. And never offer yourself to them because that really does make you seem "lower" than them. No one wants what they can easily get. Kinda like the diamond and water theory. Even though we need water to survive we would easily pass it up for diamonds, but if we were in the desert where water is scarce then that's a different story. Hmm that's it for now I have to run but hopefully I've helped.
P. S physical looks has little to do with what kinda girls you can get because you and I have seen men that aren't that attractive dating some perfect 10s. Here's something you can try. I'm sure that you have girls that you know are attracted to you that you aren't attracted to, well try treating the girls that you ARE attracted to like the ones you AREN'T and you'll notice a difference

It's not worth it to pursue someone who isn't interested in you. Even if you do manage to get into a relationship with them, you will *constantly* have to keep in good graces and basically demean yourself to keep them interested.

For the sex thing, I am the same way. If I am not attracted to a woman, why would I want to sleep with her? Pity? No thanks. The decision affects two people, so unless both parties are willing, the result won't be a good one.

You don't sound like your honestly ATTRACTING women to you. I'm curious to know how your approaching women, and engaging them. Little secret. WOMEN DO NOT WANT NICE GUYS. They say they do. THEY'RE LYING! Women need something to pursue while were pursuing them. Such as. I'm dating this girl once. She's good looking. Every guy drools and praises her on her looks I HONESTLY REFUSE TO. Women will never admit to it, but the guys who treat them the worse are the ones they crave the most. The guy who won't compliment her, and makes her feel like she's nothing and unimportant is the guy she wants to make her feel special but he won't. And she doesn't know why. And she's attached to it. That's why every beautiful girl has an asshole she's dealing with. There's something he's not giving her that she wants, and he lets her nibble on that want for a while and he snatches it away and makes her chase it again. Now in the same breath you can't dog a girl out. Because you probably have a conscience like a lot of us nice guys at heart. Ur one of the guys who " looks good on paper " but when applied to life, your probably too nice. Which is a cliche within itself but I'm telling you bro. GIRLS WANT BAD BOYS and once they figure out how to turn us good. They marry us. I'm not married but I almost was. I cheated and admitted it.