What am I doing wrong?

What the anonymous responder said about you presenting an image that's different from who you really are is spot on for this one. Because of your line of work and physical appeal they make assumptions that you might be a hard ass. When they don't get one they flake.

There's nothing wrong with you, just understand that the presentation you're offering at the moment is what's drawing this attention. It happens to everyone unfortunately.

Sounds like you are looking in the wrong places. Maybe start getting involved in other interests you have that involve being in groups, then you might find someone like minded :)

Lookin' for love in all the wrong places...I agree with other postings-the image you're putting out there (bad boy) might be different from the person you are (really nice guy). There are plenty of women who would love to meet a good looking guy who is calm, serious and wants a normal life. They may not be hanging out in the clubs though. Don't give up!

I agree with the answers that I've read. I hope that you do finally meet someone who accepts you the way you are. In my situation with my boyfriend, when we go out drinking sometimes someone can just look at him wrong and he says "I can kick his ass." Him saying that really gets on my nerves. I tell him that I'm here with you to have a good time and not out looking for a fight. I'm trying to get him out of that. He's a great guy but when he drinks sometimes he can be intense, but never towards me. He's a work in progress. TRY to meet someone outside of work if you can on your off days. Sometimes you have to go through a few people but you will finally stumble upon a keeper. Good luck!

It sounds like the image you are portraying is different from who you really are and so people are surprised when they find out. The women at clubs who are chasing you are expecting you to be like the other bouncer types they have met and probably don't know what to think when you act differently. Women who hang out a lot at places like that are probably not the type that are calm, serious and wanting a normal life. I think you would have better luck looking for potential dates elsewhere. Like church or the library or through some hobby you have.

I don't think you're doing anything wrong. It sounds like it's just the wrong type of women you're meeting. They don't know what they're missing. Most girls love the fact that their man can be strong and tough when he needs to be but can also be sweet and gentle with her and want a normal life. I know it's not easy to meet people when you're a single parent, I'm a single mom with 2 teen daughters myself and can't seem to find a decent guy, but try looking outside the club if you can. They are a lot of good women out there.

It seems to me that you're getting involved with the wrong types of women. I may be wrong, but it looks like all they want is Vin Deisel's stunt-double body, and not what's inside. Where do you meet these women? If you've been meeting them at the clubs you bounced at, then chances are, they may not be your type. You may have better luck finding someone somewhere else. Not all women want nasty brutes for a significant other. I certainly don't. In time, I'm sure you'll find a woman that loves you for you being calm, serious, and wanting a normal life, and not for simply being something to look at. Just give it time, and keep your eye out for Ms. Right. Trust me, hon, she's out there. =)

Well I see what you're saying. Nightclubs and strip clubs are not the best places to find quality woman. I'm not saying that some don't go to nightclubs with some friends. Strip clubs on the other hand, I wouldn't even bother. What's the common age range of the woman that come up to you at the clubs? I think the answer I have for you is pretty simple. Some might not agree with me but you seen it happen to you first hand. They see your looks as being confident and a bad boy. It attracts them but when they start getting to know you they see your are nice guy. Woman see you as like most other guys they have went out with. They want a guy that isn't begging for their attention and trying to buy there love. Even though they say they just want to meet a nice guy who treats them good, they never stay with the "nice guy" and always go to the jerks. I'm not saying that you should turn into a jerk but I would maybe tease them a little and just be funny. Its even ok to make fun of yourself if you spill a drink or even trip on something. Show them that your a fun guy. If I were you I would look more in the mall or a coffee shop or even a book store. Most likely you will have a better chance of finding the kind of woman your looking for. It takes time but there out there. Best of luck to you man

Seems you're being pursued by the wrong type of women. Time to change the environment where you're meeting these gals at.