Why do my best friend and I constantly flirt and hook up but he will never kiss me and teases all the time?

put yourself first. you know how he feels, the flirting doesn't mean he wants a relationship with you, so it may be hard for you to be around that. if it is, then take some time off from your friendship, so you can get over him, possibly find someone new... if he truly is a good friend, he'll understand, but you don't want this crush to take over your life, you need to find someone that will reciprocate your feelings.

well maybe he doesn't wanna have those kind of benefits with you no longer. Maybe he's looking for more else where and has someone on his mind. That's the logical thinking. Be his best friend and move on. I bet your attractive and have a mind too. Don't stress about it

be straight .. seriously ..if you don't stay straight you will always be thinking like , maybe he likes me , maybe he's hidding , and this is so worse I know it is .
So what you should do is , Ask him .. hey look I've started to like you , and the way you talk and all I think you should'nt if you don't like me , because this is so flattering . Simple he's your friend be frank with him . I AM 100 percent sure he won't say any bad . Don't Worry , Don't screw your life !

Hmm.. There might a slight chance that he does like you back. I don't know why he would flirt with you in the first place.. if he doesn't like you like that.

Perhaps when you had the "talk" with him.. He was taken aback since you brought up so right away, that he didn't really gather the thoughts and know what to say.. So he could've said the opposite of how he felt--maybe.

And perhaps after you had the talk.. he started flirting again.. because he did like you. This could be the slightest of chances.. that he does..

I can't really say... Or maybe he doesn't realize what he's doing is hurting you and kind of leading you own.

If he keeps on flirting.. bring it up again and ask him how he feels about you. If he says he sees you as a friend, ask him to not flirt with you again.. and/or move on.

Sounds to me like you're in love with him, and he's not in love with you. By continuing to be around him you're only driving yourself crazy, and this will only get worse. Do yourself a favor, by putting him out of your life completely, and moving on. By doing this you can satisfy the nagging voice within that hopes things will change. If he has any deep feelings for you at all, he'll come chasing after you, after you've been out of his life for a period. If this isn't the case, you never had any hope with him anyway, and you've now freed yourself up to have a normal relationship with some lucky guy. Don't be draggin this other guy around with ya, because nobody decent will ever wanna be in your life if you do.

You need to decide what you want. It seems clear that he just sees you as a FWB (Friend With Benefits). If that's something you're happy to be then continue the path you're on. If you want more of a relationship then you'll have to stop seeing/hooking up with this guy and move your attention to other guys.

play it cool, tell him how you feel.

He sees you as a friend with benefits, who puts out whenever he needs a little somethin' somethin'.
I was just in this situation, once you're seen as that, you lose all chance of being his girlfriend.

Stop hooking up with him, and find a real man.

Back off. He wants his cake and by hooking up with him you're letting him eat it too. If he wants to stay friends be a friend not his fall back plan. Show him other people want you to!

ask him straight up what he wants...if he doesn't want you...ABSOLUTELYYY do not socialize with him. unless he talks to you. Plat hard to get...trust me, it works. Flirt with other guys when you see him around...

flirt back trust that person likes you and if you like that person flirt back no sex has to be involved

Wow you both are confused you guys want to be together but you all don't want to stop being friends and are scared if the relationship doesn't go well that the friendship will never be the same. I don't think you should get mad because him and his ex went out because you are crossing boundaries that he hasn't let you cross yet he is more confused than you but the reason he went out with his ex is to stop thinking about you. You should just be friends and let what ever is going to happen happen and don't pressure him because it will run him off. Don't be so available either.

i think you should show him how real "friends" act, they don't cross that sexual flirting line. Be very casual with him and don't let him hookup at all, then when he realizes he misses it, hell be all about it

If he flirts and you are interested in him. It might be better to say that you are & ask him if he is.
*sigh*

you tell him to screw off because he's a whore, and go on with your life and be happy

What do you mean by hooking up. Your original post said "(no sex". In your age range really hooking up means sex. Is that what happened last Thursday, you were in the middle of almost having sex?

TAKE IT EASY AND FLIRT BACK I MEAN AFTER ALL YOU GUYS ARE JUST FRIENDS BUT NOTE IF YOU DONT WANT HIM TO FLIRT TELL HIME TO BE EASY YOU ARE NOT READY FOR THAT AND YALL ARE FRIENDS AND YOU DONT WANT TO GAIN FEELINGS BECAUSE YOU GUYS ARE

Hey, I just came out of exactly the same situation. But now I'm actually not even friends with the guy because he was just a jerk about it. It was actually the second time he had led me on and I was stupid enough to fall for him again! As my mum said to me, if he is really interested, he's going to show it. He will call you and take you out to dinner to show that he's really into you. If he doesn't unfortunately "hes just not that into you" and that's not anything you should take personally, its prob more something reflective of him whether he is stupid, immature, into different things or maybe he's just gay! I ended up finding out that while my guy was all cuddly with me and everything he was going around sleeping with other girls and I had no idea! Tell him to stop playing with ur emotions. I told my guy that physical contact had to stop and just admitted to him that I was really hurt by it all. He isn't talking to me atm but at least I feel better and I'm not wasting my time. After so many months of me feeling like he was in control with the relationship, I now feel like I have made a stand : ) It's really not easy to break those ties but there is no use flogging a dead horse. Good luck.

Ask him again. Tell him that he is very confusing and he needs to make up his mind.

He was just using you. Then he got guilty when he realised you really liked him and ran away.

When he said you're just a friend to him, he meant it.

Now he's just using you as an ego boost. You don't mean anything to him but just makes him feel better and he's enjoying his power over you.

Forget about him! Distance yourself from him and hang out with other friends who won't manipulate you like this

Uhhh I know how you feel. I'm in the same situation. Be good to yourself and take the high road. Don't go there with him. He's playing with your emotions for an ego boost.

ignore him
seems to be useless, he knows you have feelings for him and he thinks of you a only a friend then you have to ignore him, and try as much as possible to keep him in the friend zone
and no more hook ups so you wouldn't be used anymore...

Tell him that friendship and flirting do not go together and that, unless he wants to confuse you again into thinking there is something more, he needs to stop. If you are feeding or responding to this behavior, you need to stop that as well. If he said he sees you as a friend, accept that and don't go down a path that will lead to hurt.

I think he is just enjoying the female attention but is not being sensitive to your needs. You need to evaluate whether he is overall not sensitive to your needs or just in this area. Guys and girls both can be guilty of this. I have heard of guys complaining that girls just keep them on the hook far enough to have the guy paying attention to them but never accepting a date.

Also, beware that he may be trying to hookup (sex) without entering into a relationship and is just hoping you will eventually take the bait. FWB is a big mistake, don't do it. It won't lead to a relationship but it will lead to the end of your friendship.

This comes back to the fact that for women, hooking up is emotional (inspite of our best efforts to not get emotionally involved), and guys can keep it at a purely physical level for the most part. You like the attention from him, so you are willing to settle for "friendship" and keep putting yourself in compromising situations because you hope that he will change. The best thing you can do is make the decision to do what's best for yourself and stop being around him. I know this is very hard to do. You don't want that hope that things will change with him holding you back from something else great.

Flirting doesn't necessarily mean anything has changed for him. It's really just a normal thing that young and/or single people do.