Would you like her to play hard to get?

I have just been through this and I can say it almost got to the point where I started to resent the girl for being so aloof.

So be careful.

Of course, don't be TOTALLY upfront. It'd take a lot of the fun out of the most exciting part of a relationship and perhaps if you come on too strong, you'll freak the guy out. But just make sure he can get a pretty good picture of how you feel about him through your behavior. When girls play hard to get, they think they're sending the message "I'm a challenge." But often the message that the guy actually gets is "I'm not interested" or "I'm not worth it." These mixed signals can screw with a guy's head. And nobody appreciates that when they have other important things to focus on (school, work, etc.).

A, it's not because I don't care to put out the effort to chase, it's because I don't think of love as a game. If I am going to be with someone I want them to have the situational maturity to accept my feelings and return them, I'll put more effort out in showing her I love her and to what degree, instead of wasting time and energy on something that only further complicates my feelings toward her and leaves questions on where she stands with me.

And to those of you that noticed I said "situational maturity" and are wondering what I meant, I mean I don't mind so much if a woman is immature (to a certain degree of course) so long as she can handle being serious and mature when it matters, besides, a little bit of imature goofiness is somewhat of a requirment to tolerate and even like me seeing as though I'm the kind of person that would smear food on my cheeks and nose when someone wasn't paying attention if I thought it'd make them laugh or at least smile. At the same time, I'm also the sort of person that enjoys long meaningful conversations both ones from the heart and ones of the mind, and that's a big part of where situational maturity comes in, at least for me.

Anyways sorry about the rambling and long explanation of things, hope this answers your question. =)

Girls who play hard to get and play games are tiresome. Its not worth the b*llsh*t. Smart guys and good guys will stay away. you'll only attract assh*les

guys DONT want a challenge they want pickups to be easy so no not even a little bit

that would be like asking a sports team if they want a hard win or a blowout

Obvious signals so it shows she goes for what she wants...But at the same time hard to get as in lack of physical contact to make me yearn for it.

A little! Just enough to know that she doesn't go after every guy that likes her.

A girl playing hard to get is a complete turn off for me, even if I am attracted to her.

Everything is good, IN MODERATION!

Here's my example of playing hard to get the good way:

First date: take her home, get a kiss on the cheek and a "call you later!" but she actually calls!

Second date: take her home, get a nice peck on the lips and a "Call you later@" but she actually calls!

Thrid date: etc. etc.

Basically, not giving into my desire to have sex with her after the first 5 seconds of the first date, and slowly getting closer.
Not the "i'm not gonna call for 4 days after the first date, and after that he has to initiate contact to which I will not respond until 5 days later only in a text message that I will then reply back to his reply 3 days later and be very cryptic like I'm busy and then after he begs I will then call him to setup a date 6 days later then leave a short message on his Facebook (If I had one) to which I will not reply to his reply for another 2 days after he compliments me."

It's very easy to get carried away with anything and make it the "lame-game".

So is hard to get cool? yeah, in moderation. :)

Playing hard to get is a very risky and dangerous game. A guy will interpret it as you are not interested and will move on to a more willing participant.

If you are playing these types of games then you are a game player and no one likes that. You wouldn't want or appreciate him making you sweat because he is playing a game at your expense. Be a grown up and be clear and concise about your actions.

The only way a woman should be hard to get is when it comes to sex. Make him work for that and he will appreciate it. (kinda like when he worked hard to get his car, his baby, his pride and joy!)

But if you still insist of playing hard to get here is the safe way of playing it:

If he calls you for a date, state I'm not sure what my plans are let me check my organizer and I will get back to him, and then get back to him within 30 minutes!

"Occasionally" answer your phone with a twist. "I'm so glad you called. I'm in the middle of finishing up (insert your b.s. here) can I call you back as soon as I finish?" Then call him back within the hour.

If you want to not answer your phone make sure you return that call within the hour with a good excuse like you were rockin' out on the treadmill and your phone was in the locker, or you were getting a haircut etc. (some women like to wait for him to call several times before returning the call. Maybe we get the ideal because they do it to us, but what we don't realize is when they do that to us, they are not into us, so they interpret that when we do it)

If he calls you and you want to seem like you have a life and are not sitting around twiddling your thumbs waiting for his call. When he calls simply say "Hey, I am so glad you to hear from you. I am preparing to (insert bs here) so I can talk for 10 to 15 minutes.

It's not about being hard to get. It's the appearance that you have a life. You will become more desirable in their eyes.

for me I give guys the obvious signals so it is clear I like them but then I play hard to get like I'm busy or something because I don't wanna be all on his junk like so fast or I don't wanna seem needy. its a balence

okay sorry for voting, I'm not gay lol but I kinda want to see the results...?