I can't get girls to really see ME...Why?

Its sad that the steriotype of boys is boys = want sex. because unfortunatley there are probably the same amount of girls who are equally as like-minded. Girls just aren't as upfront about it. If your a good looking guy, People will automatically assume you get alot, and are more quick to judge you as being big headed and expecting that you can get sex from them, weather they intentionally judge you like this that's up to them. I know your problem exactly, although I'm a girl and I'm on the recieving end of this problem... I can't get boys to actually have a proper conversation with because my first impression of 80% of the guys I meet and talk to I feel like they only want one thing. That's the way society has made us think and its sad when you think about it. You just have to make it clear when you first meet girls that you want to know all about THEM, not the colour of their underwear... Ask questions about themselfs, their daily lifes, etc. There are three reasons a girl is put off getting to know a guy... 1 - they straight up say to them your hot can I have your number. that's a definate no. 2 - They are toooooo nice. (yes this is possible) and 3 - they just plain aren't interested. Its a difficult question because it all really depends on the girls you talk to, how they react to you. You will just have to keep looking I suppose, there are girls out there who would love to have a conversation with you without thinking 'he only wants sex' trust me. Its not your fault the way that society and steriotypes has given them a mind set.

I hope that makes sence. I'm not that great at explaining but I know what I mean.. :)

Well partially because at this age 90% of guys want sex from you. I don't want to sugarcoat it, it is what it is. So when you meet a guy, even if he is genuine, he ends up getting the side eye because many guys before him have used that line and played that game too. Time is what usually says if a guy wants to be with you for you and not sex. Make sure you are not talking about sexual things or always telling her how pretty she is, that can make someone think you want sex. Also if you are good looking, many people will be quick to assume you're a player.

Because it's a lot harder for girls to trust guys these days. Sounds like a cop out I know but in an age like this when sex is such a common way for people to get to know each other (people usually hook up before they even know eachothers favourite colour, birthdays, eyecolour even!) it's hard to see past the possibility that a guy is only talking to you because he wants into your pants. A majority of the guys in the world are only after the sex, and unfortunately guys like you can be punished for it. :(
It helps to just persevere and keep putting yourself out there, eventually you will find a girl that won't judge you on the rest of the male population.

A guy actually recently got offended with me for teasing him about just going after me and other girls for sex. However, the truth is, there are so many douches out in the world, that its rare to find one who isn't. We automatically assume all guys are the same, because, well, most guys are. There's only a handful of guys who are like you. &most of the time, they're taken. Forgive us, but we've been hurt to much.

A very good male friend of mine is experiencing this too. In fact, he were just discussing it yesterday. I advised him that it might the age of the girl, like if she is 18, 19, 20. They might have had numerous run-ins with guys in that age bracket looking for one thing. That is why they react the way they do. Once girls mature and have done some dating then they realize that all guys aren't looking for one thing. They will specifically seek out a guy with positive attributes that might lead to a healthy relationship.

As frustrating as it is, continue to be yourself and approach girls who seem receptive to you. Try to focus more on eye contact and smiling (don't "check her out". I am not saying you're doing this, it's just a suggestion). There are girls seeking a guy like you, be persistent, determined and keep your head up.

Good luck.

Long story short. Before chicks hit like 25 a million guys have lusted after and chased her clam. Guys get lost in the midst. You need to step it up or be patient, or when they realise (mature) that you are the sh*t.

Now that's a best answer fo' sure.

it may be in the way you act or what you say initially

do you flirt a lot?

try talking to them without any sexual references.


Ask their opinions on things that you think may be interesting.
Once you get them talking they will never stop.

it takes time to build a rapport with girls, and you guys have to have a few
experiences together for her to trust you and not just think you're after sex

Try to be interesting but not flirty when you're talking to them

you can tell a funny story, show her a card trick, read her palm etc
they love this kinda stuff

and your seem to be a good looking guy so if you're also very interesting and fun
to be around then they will be attracted to you and they won't think you're just
a guy after sex.



oh yea and cut the crap about you have to get to now a girl first to see if she's beautiful.

ahhhh amore

lol don't make me laugh and puke at the same time

statements like that may partially be the reason why girls are on their guard about you,
they know that kinda stuff is fake, cause we all know that guys initially go for looks then we see the personality and get to know her.

theres nothing shallow about having standard of beauty that you won't go below. Its more shallow not to admit it.

Well you do sound creepy. You know they're just other humans right?