A few weeks ago, I met a woman while on a business trip to California. I'm in NY and she lives in Cali. When we met she talked about how she's been planning to relocate to NY and has been actively interviewing for a new job.
I got a good vibe from her that first night and she seemed responsive to me giving her a goodnight kiss. I left thinking that there is some potential here and that if she does happen to relocate I'd want to see her again.
We've talked about every other day or so, since we met. She seems to be engaged in the conversation and happy when I call her but, she doesn't initiate any contact. All but one of our conversations have been started by a call or text from me. I don't know if I'm reading to much into it but, I've never had a woman that was interested in me, not reach out to talk. She has told me how she has a passive and shy personality so, I've wondered if that could be it or if there's more.
Any thoughts?
Update: I'm happy to say that she and I have been speaking on a much more frequent basis and I'm beginning to learn so much more about her. From what I've seen, she's as great as I initially thought and she has opened up a lot. Things look to be going good
7 months ago
You must let this lady know that she doesn't need to be passive or shy around you. She may need some confirmation of this. Also let her know that it would be really nice to hear from her once and a while. When you call her she seems very happy and seems as though she keeps the conversation flowing.
She is obviously interested, otherwise she would come up with an excuse not respond or answer to any calls/ text messages. Yes, it can be irritating that you are doing all the work to contact her, but she is doing little or none. Do not take this as a sign of disinterested...she maybe confused as to what the protocol is when it comes to these types of things...also, because of her passive/shy nature she may feel that she is being too bold/brusque in contacting you first. You must let her know that you do like to hear from her and she can call/text anytime because it really cheers you up. This will give her the official green light. It is great that is she is already engaged in the conversations you are having -- this is a definite must and a definite plus.
Remember, if you do find that her passive/shyness is getting to you to the point that you feel it would become a long-term problem/irritation you maybe better off not going ahead with anything. If anything, this lady just needs some time to get to know you and open up to you -- shy/passive people tend be like this. Just reassure her and give her a bit of encouragement. I hope things work out for you both.
Thank you for the feedback Trickstir. You make some very good points and I will make an effort to let her know how much I do like to hear from her. We hit it off when we talk but, this has been kind of unique to me so, I wasn't sure how to approach it.
I don't see her shyness being an issue down the road because I'd hope that over time she would open up and be comfortable enough to feel free to open up to me. (Even though thinking that far out is probably jumping the gun heheh) Thanks again! - 7 months ago
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Good luck :) All this lady needs is a bit of encouragement to open up and trust you. Be kind, patient. And let it unfold on its own. She already senses something with you which says "trust this one" - don't let her down. - 7 months ago
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