Ok so I have a degree in Psychology. I am studying to be a criminal profiler but this guy is driving me crazy. I told him I like him and I know for a fact he likes me. He has asked everyone at work about me. We hooked up a few weeks ago. I thought that was going to be it. I thought "well he will talk to me at work and be polite but that is all". No. I go out with some friends at work and he asks them where we are going or the next day he asks them where we went and what we did. He told my friend I have nice ass. He really doesn't talk to me much at work (He is a native Spanish speaker that doesn't speak much English and I am a native English speaker that doesn't speak much Spanish however my Spanish is pretty good). So he told me this past Sunday we should go out. I had to work and he worked at his other job. He didn't call me so I called him after I got off. He said he was going out and he would call me later. He never called so I deleted his number from my phone. Mainly because I didn't want to become one of those obsessed girls that calls all the time.
So, when I leave work I change clothes and make sure he sees me leave looking good. My uniform for work makes me look horrible and he always checks me out when I leave and says something. Plus, some of the other guys do the same so I figure it is a win/win situation. He sees I am desirable and that the other guys notice the same.
Tonight, I changed and left. He came out of the restaurant and asked where I was going. I told him and he said he would be there around 12. So he didn't show up until around 1 or so. I saw him and went to his car. I told him I had to pay my bar tab and get my purse, that I would be just a minute. He said 1 minute I said maybe 2. I went in, paid my tab and was gone for just a few minutes but when I got back outside he was gone. I mean come on. I know he likes me but what the f@ck.
I was not gone that long. Literally long enough to pay my tab and grab my purse. I really don't know what to do. He has my number. Before I left to night I wrote it down on a piece of paper that said "lame" which is call in spanish.
I don't know what to do with this guy. He confounds me. I do like him. I was thinking of either showing up at his other job tomorrow and sitting on his car all sexy until he gets off or doing the same at the place we work on monday. Is that over the top or not? I mean I really don't know what else to do! HELP!
I'm kinda surprised that you, studying to be a profiler, cannot figure this one out. LoveDoctor may be on the right track here.
You're interacting with an ethnicity that places value on machismo. His actions and attitude towards you reflect that so called manly behaviour, while Caucasian would consider it to be rather rude and ignorant. If you really like this guy, are you able to put up with this crap for long? You're not going to change it.
Machismo behaviour can also be described as very controlling behaviour, certainly into the beginning of a relationship. If you can get past that, then machismo guys can be very protective of the ones they love. But that can also bring on new controlling behaviors depending on the guy.
I am surprised that you do not see his behaviour towards you as disrespectful. But if you are fine with it - go ahead, just keep in mind that the behaviour will not change, may even get worse once he has had you. I would recommend to back off a little and let him take the initiative, if you really want him ( sounds like you really like him) but if you are up for just a little fling, I think over the top thing should work just fine. Good luck anyway.
Hello! This has to be such a headache for you. I totally understand what you are going through. If you are certain that this guy likes you then he must be playing with your mind. Especially since he already knows that you like him.
He might want to see how further you would go with him. Latina women are very flirtatious with the men they like. They flirt and go. Do the same! Show him how "caliente" you could be!
But, make sure he's not the "macho" type! "Machista" men are harder to handle. They like to be in control of the situation and don't like to really show off their soft side. They want their women do do everything for them! I don't recommend anybody to go out with this type of guy!
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