So where I work I like my manager, I have no idea if he likes me or not. But sometimes we'll have those moments where we'll flirt (eyes contact,pushing each other around,him touching my back, little silly arguments, etc)My question is should I get over this little crush or flirt back?. Everyone always tells me that we should get together and that it seems he has a crush on me/likes me because he's always in a good mood when I'm working.
Sometimes to though he makes it seem like he's not interested. He'll stop talking to me and then he'll start asking other managers about other girls when he knows I'm standing right behind him. Like I want to get over this before I honestly end up quitting my job because that's how bad it gets sometimes. Any advice would be great, so please answer!
He is in a tough situation. He is flirting with his employee but can't appear to be harassing or wanting a relationship. This is where the ignoring of you comes in and the asking of other women to make others think everything is cool. I don't know what your office policy is, but I would check into it and it may explain his behavior. Also do you see him outside the office? That is a better way to ask him what he thinks about you. That way it is no longer an office issue, just two people in public. Co-worker relationships are a touchy issue and have to be done right.
Ya its just really confusing. I feel like just not talking to him when I work with him. Just for a while to give myself a break. But that's hard because he always tries to talk to me if I don't talk to him. - 6 months ago
He may just be being carefully cause of the sexual harassment policy that companies have in place. So if you have a break during your work shift. Ask if he wants to go get a coffee with you and talk about it then in a lighthearted, casual way.
I would try to get over it. If things don't work yo may feel like you should quit or he could end up losing his job. Intraoffice dating when its the boss and the employee is most always a bad idea. I went out on a date with my boss from another store and it was fun. When he realized he wasn't "getting any" he became a jerk and we didn't talk anymore. Now at least he's at a different store and I don't have to see him everyday, but you would have to see him everyday. Not to mention he could be a cool dude now and if he doesn't get what he wants from you be a douche bag. What if he puts your job on the line. Some states are "at will" work states. That means they have the right to fire you for whatever reason they want as long as it wasn't because of your race, sexual orientation, gender, or age.
DeltaBoy1983 Suggested that you meet outside the office. Check the law for your state and company policy. In some places managers and co-workers are not supposed to fraternize. Though some do it anyway. That means after work you could not go out with your boss and have him buy you dinner and a drink unless it was work related. They could lose their job. I know. Totally gay. I am one of those people who did it anyway tho. Just use your good judgment when assessing the pros and cons and weather or not it would be worth it.
Get over him?. I could but about if the flirting continues what am I supposed to do then?. - 6 months ago
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I'm not sure. I think I would look for an opportunity to speak to him in private and talk about it.There's no reason you guys can't be friends or anything. The sexual tension just has a tendancy to make things awkward sometimes. I think you are a smart person. Trust your gut. I'm not saying if you guys got together it would end tragically. Just that it does happen sometimes and to be careful. - 6 months ago
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Its kind of hard to talk to him now...we work together about 3-4 times a week...and now since its getting busier its going to be kind of hard...but he still makes fun of me all the time, looking at me with a smile on his face and when I get in a bad mood he does things for me, I'm thinking because he feels bad or guilty - 6 months ago
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Yeah I see your point. Hmmm. I'm not sure what to tell you. - 6 months ago
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