So this happened to me once and I made sure for it to never happen again unless I just didn't care but was wondering, why is it that some girls who you want something more with put you in the Friend Zone but change how they feel about you later? this happened to like 2 of my friends and then to me and I was like "f*** this" so I just stopped talking to her like I used to, so one thing I have learned is that once you are in the friend zone its not easy getting out of it. I ended up leaving that girls life (for like a year and out of town to be exact) and I came back and all of a sudden she's interested in me (and no its not because she hasn't seen me that's besides the point) but out of nowhere SHE wants to hang out all the time and then calls me every weekend to see me, she even got jealous of the fact I mentioned this one girl I was talking to so what's her deal, opinions anyone? haha
I think most girls routinely fall for guys they have put in the Friend Zone. at least me and all my friends! I think the only reason it's hard to 'get out' as you say, is that we also worry about ruining a good friendship if we take it to something more.
Here's the thing. Unlike most guys, we females look for guys that we get along well with. A guy who makes us laugh, who knows us and likes us for who we are. not for our bodies or whatever. We like to at least delude ourselves that we've found a guy who is interested in more than just sex. Guy friends fit that bill quite nicely. They know us pretty well and they know they aren't going to get any and they still stick around. That makes them VERY attractive after awhile and we start to rethink things. Don't get me wrong, we still go for the physical and all of that, we just like to think there is more to it than that.
Now with this girl you said that you stopped talking to her and left her life for quite a while and then just came back to find she was attracted to you suddenly. You sure it's not because she hasn't seen you? Because that happens a LOT too. Or she could have just changed her mind. Women do that. I know it's kinda crazy but we do. Back then maybe there was some other guy that she had it bad for and that's why you didn't catch her eye. Or maybe her tastes have changed since then? You know we like a certain type of guy and then we realize that they aren't good for us or that there is some other quality that we want more. I think we females tend to be way more complicated in how we choose men. Guys seem to just be like "is she hot?" and then go from there, lol.
Yea that is true she has told that the very reason she did not want to take it a step further was because she was afraid to lose me, but how would you know if you didn't try? I'm guessing she did not want to lose the quality of the type I was towards her so she didn't risk the chance? I don't know you girls are weird lol but having so much history (friend wise) with this girl I'm just not gonna do/try anything because I do not want to get my hopes up - 7 months ago
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Yes women are weird. And crazy, lol. I'm a little different (at least that's what they tell me) and I agree with you, you never know until you try. Another reason guys get stuck in the Friend Zone is a lot of girls have trouble making a move or being obvious about their feelings. We're usually all about subtly. So I think a lot of guys don't pick up on it because they already think she wants to be just friends and her flirting is too low key. Not many girls will just say they like a guy. - 7 months ago
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from what I read, she possibly might like you and you don't even notice it. She giving you clues by calling you and wants to see you. She likes you. Hope everything works out!
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