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How to ask a girl out?

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d00m5day (Age:Under 18)     When: 4 months ago
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I really am curious how other guys ask girls out. Because I've tried quite a few times, and apparently, I get turned down way too often. Maybe it's because I'm rushing things, but I really want advice about asking a girl out. Like, where do you ask, how to ask, how to respond to yes/no, where to go, if I should tell them I like them first or what not, if in a subtle manner or not, should I come clean, how long until I should ask, what to do afterwards, how often should I see them, when to plan next date etc.
Basically, I just want to see how guys ask people out. I seriously have problems with this, and it drives so many girls away. =/

Update: And it's not like I've never been successful, it's just that I've never been able to "properly" ask someone out, and I think I should know how.    4 months ago

Update: hmm. that's sorta how I asked most of my ex's out (like asking if they wanted to be my girlfriend) and they were like yeah, so. but like many people told me I should ask them out like say "do you want to go somewhere" FIRST and then it becomes obvious.    4 months ago

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Anonymous User (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
hmm well .
be yourself and well if they don't like you for you then they don't deserve you then
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shani (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
be a friend first, it's better and the relationships is alway better, because you know so much about the person from just begin friends. asking her out is the hard part you moving to the next step. start with groups dates, but on the group date try to pull her aside, it let her know you think of her as something more then the other girls in the group. and then from there play it by ear. see if she calls you more. and if so, your end.


I hope you have luck.

P.S. when is the friend zone ,try to meet her parents and let them know your guy friend, and you care about in a "brother-sister way."( just lie) so when you do start dating it won't be that weird." hi mom && dad, this is my boyfriend,d00m5day!" it more chill
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Question Asker Lol I c I c
thank you
and btw, my name's fred =)
(i've done the bro-sis thing b4, they still seem awfully suspicious though :P) - 4 months ago

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Xxcrazy-mix-up-girlX (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
just be ur self and be sweet treat them like a queen
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Question Asker I do that. =)
with my past-girlfriends. it's not like it doesn't work, it's just that I need to know the steps before, like how to actually get the girl to like me, because I know for a fact you can't attract a girl just by treating them like a queen. - 4 months ago
 

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quinnfitz1121 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
make her a friend first. Talk to her on aim of facebook or text or something.but don't get to personal. Hang out with her a few times. Don't share your feelings. Listen to her problems, make her laugh. That's the secret. You always kiss the girl before you ask her out on a real date. Before that you're "hanging out."
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Question Asker Oh..... so I just don't tell her about my own personal life? until she asks me maybe? or do I keep that secret? because I always shared my feelings and opinions with girls :S - 4 months ago

 
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
exactly what the other guys said and the number one rule to follow is never be a pussy (sorry if anyone takes offense to this term somehow) and ask a girl out through a text or online. I personally think this is a horrible way to ask and mainly communicate with a girl as do all of my friends who are girls and past girlfriends. So just follow this rule and what the other guys said and you'll be good
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Toshytosee (Age:Under 18)      When: 4 months ago
Depends on where I meet here and if I know her personally. If we see each other in like the mall or some place else I just try to say something funny like a corny pick-up line or just start a short conversation with her and ask her if she is going to do anything in the weekend and then I will ask for her number. Worked for me pretty well ,but shy girls and girls that I just met is a different story.

I just say hi and compliment her on what she is wearing like nice shoes, and then start small talk. I smile then look into her eyes which makes her want me =P and then I ask for her number. I don't like going straight forward when I am asking a girl that I just met to go hang out with me because It doesn't make them feel comfortable so Ill just text her or something until she will start to get comfortable

You should either ask her out in front of her friends so she wouldn't feel pressured, but if she is real flirty or shy I usually just hold her hand and tell her to come with me for a sec.

If they say yes then just smile and exchange numbers if you don't have it yet but if she just says no then don't worry about it. Don't be afraid to be rejected, if you asked her out and she declines she will try to say no as politely as possible like " I am meeting some one right now" or " I just got off a serious relationship" At least you had the guts to ask her out.

The best place to take them to has got to be a carnival or some place else that is fun and where you still can get to know them. Again it also depends on the girl. If she is shy then go to the movies with a group of friends with her or go on a double date to make her feel relaxed.

You probably shouldn't go straight forward unless you are good friends with them because it will just feel awkward if you go up to girl that you just met and saying that you like her.
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Question Asker Wait, so asking her out in front of her friends is a GOOD thing? I thought that it was never good to ask someone out in front of their friends? :S - 4 months ago
Answerer Depends on the girl and the situation - 4 months ago

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darkkakashi004 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
For me it was interesting and I guess I'll just explain what happened. So like me and the girl I liked for a while talk and stuff and then like after school at night or late late on weekends, she hops on AIM (im always on >.>) anyways she came up with the idea of the "question game"- just asking Q's back and forth ect.

So did that for a while, and then 1day I was like hmm o I thought of one, wait nvm (unintentional, I'm spastic on aim) and she's like omfg no what is it blah blah- so I told her I'd ask her in person sometime.

Anyways prom was like 2 weeks away (substitute prom with something else romantic'y) and then during that night I was just like: soooo, about that question I wanted to ask you.do you want to be my girlfriend? =D and she gave me a very good response so ya.

lol looking back its kinda sketch to do, and not much of a "player" thing to do but whatever, it worked for me.
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Question Asker Haha, that's sorta similar to my experience. except there was never a question game lol - 4 months ago
 
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