Ok this has been playing on my mind and could do with a bit of insight. Last weekend I went out in a big group which included my ex(we split up year and half but stayed friends) Some of the people we went out with were my ex's workmates that I had not met before, but the guy who my ex is closest too seemed to know who I was as he asked me if I was the ex girlfriend.
When I asked him how he knew that, he told me my ex had told him about me months ago and had also mentioned that I would be going out with them that night.
He then asked me whether I still had feelings for my ex, and me being not exactly sober admitted that I do. He said he was gonna tell my ex but I begged him not to cause thought it would make things awkward. Then later on we were chatting and this guy said to me that my ex doesn't like the thought of anyone else being with me. I said why hasn't he told me this(he is actually quite shy bout talking bout feelings and stuff) he said that I'm gonna have to be the one to initiate the conversation as my ex is not the kind of person to make the first move.
This has been playing on my mind ever since and now I don't know what to do, it was my ex who broke up with me but it wasn't about any major issues like trust or anything and we stayed really good friends, but now I'm thinking is it because he was the one who ended it that's making it difficult to tell me that maybe he regrets it. if I'm honest I have had suspicions he still has feelings for me but wasn't sure if it was just me who was seeing it, the fact that some random bloke who I've never met before knew all this makes me realize that he must have talked bout me a fair bit to him. Neither of us have been with anyone else since the split either. So what do you think I should do, do you think the fact this guy knew all this mean that my ex does still like me? and do you think I should slowly initiate this conversation? sorry this is so long, it's just I don't know what to do now--so any advice or input would be very much appreciated,thanks!
It really is up to you. If you want him back then just go for it. There seems to be enough evidence that he still wants you.
From a guys point of view, I can not understand however how he could want you back yet does not make the move. One could say he is afraid of rejection. In which case go up to him and don't reveal your cards straight. Flirt with him, do things that reminds him of the greatest moments you had together. Essentially to show him that it's ok, he can make a move and won't be rejected. That is if you do want to get back to a guy that broke up with you.
When we first got together it was me who had to make the 1st move, he had admitted to a mutual friend that he liked me, but as soon as I made the 1st move he was fine.He had admitted in the past that he is low in confidence when it comes to asking a girl out.The split wasn't nasty, it came out the blue and a few weeks later he told me he had booked to go traveling for a while, I knew this is something he had wanted to do and he was really unhappy in his job at the time, but we stayed in touch... - 4 months ago
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.....and the first thing he did when he got back was come and see me. - 4 months ago
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So you do feel that he wants you back right? You now mention that he was going traveling. Did he go traveling because you split or was it planned beforehand? - 4 months ago
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He had told me in the past that he would like to go traveling but I don't think he had anything planned-he didn't tell that he did anyway. He was really unhappy in his job at the time and wasn't sure if that was what he wanted to do for a career, so he jacked it all in and went traveling. But he told me when he got back that although it was fun at the start, he started to miss everyone back home and said he could never see himself going away for a long period of time again. - 4 months ago
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Then there you have it, sounds like a guy who just wanted to move on because he thought he wanted something better, and realized all he needed was back at home! Go for it. Show him that it's okay, you will accept him back, if you do want him back. - 4 months ago
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