I ask girls out all the time. I literally just don't care about getting rejected. Way I see it, who cares about the ones who say no. It's the ones who say yes that matter.
Example: Just the other day I met a co-worker and her friend at a store. We started talking, because we talk at work and she's always cool to talk to. We got on the topic of a new movie coming out, her friend said it's actually out right now, and I asked them if they wanted to go see it with me. They said no and we had a conversation about incense and hacky sacks, because we were in a hippyish shop.
I really don't see a problem with asking girls out, and when a girl gives me the weird eye like why does this dude think I'll just go out with him, I stop caring. I figure there's nothing wrong with asking them out, and if they don't look forward to being taken to dinner or a movie or whatever then I probably wouldn't want them as a girlfriend anyway.
And really, all I have to lose is what? Dignity? Pride? Should I really feel undignified or not proud because a girl says no? Never made any sense to me, so I just ask and don't worry about it, and that's why so many girls have said yes (though plenty say no and some even get offended)
Am I wrong to just not care? Is it wrong of me to just ask girls out? Are the ones who get offended just beeyotches?
Also--no--girls may have a ton of reasons for getting offended that have more to do with their past experiences (or current life situations) than with you, so don't take it personally...
I totally don't think it is wrong so long as you are upfront about your intentions. Believe it or not, some girls are in a place in their own lives/education/careers where they want to date casually too. It's a numbers game, so the more you ask out, the more girls you are liable to get on the same page. The only time it can be wrong is when you are lying to get what you want...this almost always ends up biting people on the arse, guy or girl...
I don't think you should care at all. Girls are always flattered when they get asked out, whether they want to go out with you or not.
And it really sounds like your I don't care approach wouldn't be intimidating or creepy to the askee. Plus, girls LOVE real old-fashioned dates.. it's become something that people only doing once they are in a relationship, and is lame.
Maybe what you should worry about is coming off like you care so little that you are just going out as friends: not flattering. Or if you don't do that (i can't tell) you should be a little cautious of you rep.. you don't seem to have met the girl your head over heels for, and you don't want her to think your insincere when the day comes to ask HER out...
until then.. maybe keep your serial dating under wraps.. yay dating
I think it's cool that you're not afraid of rejection. That's cool that you don't get all bent out of shape when you get turned down. You really don't have anything to lose! There are way too many guys who get all pissed when they get turned down and start calling females out of their name b/c their ego is hurt. Good to see your not one of them.
But are you asking girls out that you really like or do you just do it cavalierly (is that a word LOL)? Because I'd be kind of offended if a guy who was notorious for asking every girl out tried to get with me b/c I'd think he has no standards and/or is just looking to get some from as many as he can. I'm not saying you're like that, but be careful you don't come off like that to girls.
Hell no it's not wrong to ask a lot of girls out, that way you have your options open, and if you really like one of them then you can weave out the others, dude girls do it all the time, think about it they get hit on every single day. If you get rejected so what who cares you live and you learn, everyone gets rejected at one point in time I don't care who you are or how great you look.
When you date a lot of girls at the same tine, and they all think their relationship is exclusive with you, and you don't tell them any differently, be careful. Then you have become a player;a girl's worst nightmare. Alot of people can get their feelings hurt then. You should always be honest and up front about your intentions.
The more girls you ask out them ore girls will think you don't take them seriously When you find a girl you really like and you tell her that you will have a reputation Bit like the boy who cried wolf...
Consider yourself damn lucky. Many guys want to ask girls out but they can't cause they are either too shy, or afraid of rejection. Now, what you have to watch out for is if your style is the annoying type. For example, I have a friend that does the same thing as you---he asks every girl out. However, when he does it, he comes out as a major jerk, or total geek so all girls say no. So if you're getting a lot of rejections, then you should be worried about your style of asking the girls out. If you're getting a lot of successes, then, not a big deal. However, later on, as you find the girl you really like, this could be a problem. If you're not committed to anybody at the moment, then, keep on asking.
Gotta totally disagree with you on the rejections part. You'll get a lot of rejections no matter what, asking a girl out is as much about timing as it is about skill, a girl is only looking for a guy maybe 20% of the time, so you're gonna get a lot of no - 9 months ago
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But you misunderstood what I was trying to tell you---my friend's approach is totally wrong and he never ever gets a successful response because he comes off as being jerkish about asking out. If you get yes's then not a problem.... - 9 months ago
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