This guy and I have known each other for five years and have been good friends for about three, ever since I graduated from college, and have been flirting quite a bit since last summer.
He was a prof in my college major so I saw him often. There was one instance that stands out in my mind (three years ago but still) and continues to bring a smile to my face:
Senior year I had him for a class along with three other classes. Right before finals I was hospitalized for two weeks. I told my dad to email my four profs (this particular prof included) to let them know what happened. He did. This particular prof was the only one to either call or visit me (he called me and talked for about 10 minutes). I said "hello?" and without a hello he asked "what the hell happened to you?" He has a distinct voice so I knew who it was. I told him and he asked me what I was doing. I told him watching TV and he said "good. You have to get better cause I have something for you." Three weeks later I was making my rounds to my profs to figure out which finals I needed to make up. I stopped by his and he said "Lazarus is back from the dead!" and he started laughing but had warm eyes. I asked him about the final and he told me not to worry about it. He asked me if I had any scars (honestly the only personal question he has asked me) and I told him yes, two. He then said "I have something for you." He came back and gave me two large books of the subject the class I took was. Granted it's not your ideal "gift-giving" after a recently hospitalized person, but I cherished them as I thought it was a really sweet gesture. When I left he smiled at me and patted me on the back. That ws three years ago and I've never forgotten that.
Fast-forward to now where we have been keeping in touch a lot (we live several states away and can't see each other) through email and over the phone. Both of us have been flirting a lot. I really, really like him and cannot stop thinking about him but the age difference is quite large: he's 59 and I'm 25. But I honestly think he really likes me, too, but since he is painfully shy as am I, he has never said anything. I'm coming home for Easter where I hope we can get together. I've already told him and he said that was great news and told me when he'd be off; sounds like he really wants to see me.
So my question is, do you think he really likes me and wants to take it past friendship and is too shy to do so? What can I do to get the feelings out of a shy man? Because I'm shy too and don't want to make the first move, LOL!
Oh my, fair maiden, you do have rather indecorous taste in men. While the Professor genuinely cares about you, and may even have the hots for you, so far he's kept things fairly professional. A man of his mature disposition has been around the Ivory Tower a few times. I wouldn't be surprised to learn he romanced a grad or two back in the heady days of his youth when 8 track tapes and the Sex Pistols were all the rage. However, a couple dusty old tomes and a bit of cyber-flirting do not portend professorial passion. You may jump his bones from a running leap, and if you're lucky, he won't get out of the way. But don't do anything foolish like decide to fall in love with this man. There's nothing illegal about such a tryst, but the Professor does have a reputation to consider. Damaged reputations may affect the possibility for promotion, continued tenure, and finally, his pension. Here are your possibilities: A. A professional relationship with one exception allowing for continued cyber-flirting; B. A limited engagement featuring up to several wanton May-December encounters with your hunky but weathered brainiac. I imagine the Professor is right flattered by your affections. I'm equally convinced that what you call shyness in the Professor reveals practiced professionalism and a reluctance to make poor choices.
Here's a test. Show the professor your sentence. If he continues to see you, then you'll know it's true love:
"He came back and gave me two large books of the subject the class I took was."
In the meantime, please reassure me you weren't studying English, an M.F.A., or courses in literature.
Maybe this is me just being naive, but he's not like that. He is very shy and quiet. Whenever I'd be doing homework in his classroom, other females would come in asking for help in his class and he'd help them then they'd be off; with me, he seems to smile and spend time with me more. Since I've graduated the prof won't get into any trouble, right? I studied art and the class I took (and the books he gave me) was art history. What about the eye gazing?? When that happens it's serious - More than a year ago
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It's a lot easier to romanticize a man if you have yet to romance him. Like any romantic tragedy, this one is doomed before it begins. But I suppose as long as you're wiling to focus on gazing into his eyes while flirting, then you may content yourself with the poetry and avert your eyes from the closing stanzas where the tragedy is laid bare. - More than a year ago
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