Very true indeed. You know the old saying "someone who loves you wants the best for you". The ability to love means more than just the feeling - I. E, euphoria, butterflies in your stomach the longing/yearning - that's all fine. But you really love someone when you're able to walk away from them if it is in their best interest.
Love is an emotion. It's not something you can be able to do. Because everyone can love, unless you're some psycho. Lol Love is not something you have, it's something you share with another. :) You can't control it when you're in love, unless you're not really in love. Love is like a hungry person who needs food to survive. Oh jesus. I don't know where those thoughts in me developed. Haha but It's just truth. Lol
I see both ends of the spectrum here. I feel that love is both an emotion and an ability. It is an emotion that grows from other emotions, but in order to keep it alive, you must have the ability and willingness to nurture it. Love isn't something that just keeps happening, such as breathing, it is something that requires a lot of work and commitment on both parts. If one person doesn't have the ability to nurture the love, then it's not growing on a sandy foundation and all it will take is one tide to drift it away.
Dan in Real Life! Awesome movie btw! But to answer your question, I think that the first have of the statement is entirely true. "Love is not an Emotion. " I believe that one feels the most intense emotions in the early stages of dating/relationships. Its the excitement of a new love along with hormones racing telling the body that it's interested. Its lust. Lust is an emotion. To say that love is an ability, although I agree, its not the word I would have used because I think everyone has the ability to love. In fact, its a fairly easy thing to do with enough time spent in a relationship, paired with the right person of course. Its better to say (sorry writers of Dan in Real Life) that love is an action. Everyone knows the saying, Actions speak louder than words right? Well, when a person loves another they act accordingly in the ways to make the other person happy and make the other person aware that they are cared for. Love isn't selfish. Ability is a characteristic within the self, this is why I disagree with the latter half of the statement.
I don't believe it. I think every one has the capability to love, just that some people find it easier than others. Also, I think everyone expresses it in different ways, some not as obvious as others. Therefore I don't think love is an ability, I think it is an emotion.
Honestly - it sounds like tripe to me. One of those phrases that seems profound on its utterance, but doesn't lead anywhere. From the answers I gather this is a quote from a movie of some sort. Kind of has that feel to it.
Love is certainly an emotion. I would argue that love and fear are the primary emotions, the ones upon which the concept that we call emotion is based. Imagine yourself without language (thinking in images) and imagine what internal motivation would drive you. Those primary values (ones developed long before Hammurabi started jotting things down) are the underlying foundation of human emotional development. In addition, love is to be found in more situations than just guy-girl relationships.
The ability part, to me, makes no sense and lends to reductio ad absurdum. It seems like the point is to indicate that it isn't love if it isn't supported by actions and conduct (faith alone is not faith). And there's something to be said for that, but not in that construction. What if I say I love a girl, but she doesn't want me around? I'm willing to perform all the great actions of love, but she's not interested. Does that mean it isn't love? Or that I am unable to love because I don't have the ability to Vanilla Sky it into the world?
"What if I say I love a girl, but she doesn't want me around? I'm willing to perform all the great actions of love, but she's not interested. Does that mean it isn't love? Or that I am unable to love because I don't have the ability to Vanilla Sky it into the world? "
No, you still hold both the emotional and the able aspect BECAUSE of your willingness, I myself don't believe love to be an emotion, however I loved your response! *High Five*
Mango =] - 9 months ago
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Fair enough. Thanks for the kind words. :) - 9 months ago
It makes me think that to feel the effects of love, you have to willing to be able to give before you receive. This "willingness" makes love a form of expression, taking the idea of love to a new height, a new level, away from an emotion, out of the mind - expressed in some form of ability, with speech; and actions and silences - going from a longing/lust, into an emotion, then expressed in some for of ability. Whoever said it seems like they were trying to distinguish between having a hardcore crush on someone - or being in a give and take relationship, where love is seen, love is felt, and taken notice of, not staying dormant in ones mind. He/she was getting to the level of the expression of love, in my opinion. Which that in the process makes it an ability, over an abstract emotion. Depending on how you look at it.
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