fiancee is pregnant and is wanting to give our daughter her name and when we get married then hyphenate it... just feels wrong to me should I push the issue or just roll over
Update: no its just her name she wants our daughter born with not mine at all and when we get married ill have to pay to adopt her even though I am the biological father 22 days ago
maybe its a pride thing cause my dads still p*ssed 2 this day that none of his kids has his name. if it's something you feel that strongly about fight it. is she taking you last name after you married?
that's pretty weird, dude.your daughter is supposed to get your last name because your the dad, tit doesn't matter if your married.sorry, but somethings sketchy about that
What your fiancee wants to do makes no sense to me. There's no reason for you to adopt your biological daughter, just sign the birth certificate. And giving her the name the two of you want her to have at birth is easier than going through the legal process of changing it afterward.
Once you sign the birth certificate you are the father, which ever last name the baby has first of all ! Why in the world she would want her last name to be and then hyphenate it makes no sense unless she is not really looking to get married and this is just a way of getting what she wants for the time being. What happens if later the baby grows up and gets married and decides that she wants to hyphenate her name in order to keep her original last name then what? I don't know what she is thinking but I think she has a plan behind it, sorry! ty-lady!
You didn't tell me that she was going to make you pay to adopt your own kid. so don't f*cking down me for trying to make sense of what your problem is. if you two aren't married, she has every right to give the child her name at birth, and hyphenate it once you two get married, but if she's making you pay to adopt the kid, then that's outrageous. - 22 days ago
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Sorry I wasn't trying to down you I was just trying to make my statements more clear not used to this format - 22 days ago
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Well before you go taking points from people's accounts, try explaining the whole situation. have fun paying to adopt your own kid. - 22 days ago
I gave you the thumbs down not him. Don't be so quick to make assumptions. Saying "have fun paying to adopt your own kid" was extremely rude. Your xper level does not justify your quick temper. You're supposed to be a role model on this site. - 22 days ago
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Why am I supposed to be a roll model? just because I've been here for nearly a year? I'm not a moderator. and to be honest, I think the the child should be given a choice of which name they use. perhaps hyphenation is better. if your name wasn't hyphenated, then you wouldn't be using your mother's name, you'd have your father name. - 22 days ago
I'm against hyphenating last names. I had my fathers’ last name with my mothers hyphenated and I hated it (I’ve dropped my fathers name since then). Felt like being apart of two separate families. No one refers to you by both names. You end up getting used to being called the one that comes first while the other is forgotten.
Even in marriage I would refuse a hyphenated name. I would be offended if she wouldn't take mine, but if she felt stronger then me about it (i.e. willing to break-up over it) I would take hers.
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