Why can't I get over him?

Guys don't generally play mind games and tease you. If he liked you he would have flat out told you by now or given you a definite sign. We don't send mixed signals and we try to use words in place of body language or some other form of communication that can be misinterpreted, because it bugs the hell out of us when girls communicate with us in ways that can be interpreted to mean a ton of different things.

So, yeah . . if he liked you he would have told you by now

Girl I feel ya on this one.There's this guy I've known now for a year now. And when we first started talking. I knew that I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. But we haven't been able to get together because right now we're both tied up with other circumstances,etc. And it kills me cause when I see him I want to just want to run up to him and hug him. And kiss him. Or if I hear a song it literally makes my chest hurt or I cry cause I know we should be together and it will never happen probably. And I just can't seem to get over him.

I'm going to say just ask him, if he doesn't like you back then you can start moving on. or become a stalker [not a good idea]
or you can spend the rest of your life "what could have been?"

Honey I know exactly how you feel- I am in exactly the same position as you, and I know it hurts like hell. Like you, I've tried moving on but all I end up doing is comparing them to him-i seriously can't see myself being with anyone else. we dated a couple of years ago but he went away abroad for 6 months and we split up. But all the signs he liked me are still there but was scared to ruin our friendship and he is quite a shy person.

Now within the past few days he has started mentioning this girl he works with-we're all going out next wk and some of his work mates will be there-including her. I'm hoping there is nothing to it and that their just friends as she is in the close group of mates he hangs out with from work. But back to the point. I was sitting there really miserable and depressed about it yesterday when my younger brother said to me "instead of sitting there being depressed and miserable about it why don't you take control and ask him how he feels and tell how you feel" I know it sounds obvious but it really struck a chord with me. and don't think he would ever make a move as he is quite shy-so looks like the ball is in my court. So I'm planning on doing it next week as can't do it anymore-it's ripping me apart.

So I think you should do the same as me, swallow you're pride and pluck up your courage and tell him how you feel. Tbh it' nice to know I'm not alone on this-always asked myself why I couldn't move on when my friends can.i suppose we just found someone we think is worth holding on too. ok hun wish me luck.and I'm wishing you all the luck as well! x

Just wondering, but if you like him so much and he possibly likes you, why don't you try to make a move first? Maybe he really is just nervous.