ok I'm so depressed I have had a lot of shit happen me in my life and what annoys me adults have said to me pacifically your the kind of girl who will always have friends because of your looks and when I say how un happy i am people say ah your a moan no your not sure you are pretty ! this really annoys me I'm not aloud to be upset or be unhappy as I'm supposedly pretty! wtf? I'm so depressed right now and all people say is oh your not don't be stupid your so pretty when I'm not even mentioning my looks my depression had nothing got to do with my looks I'm not even that pretty I'm pretty but nothing you haven't seen before but the people around me always dismiss my feelings because ill be ok because I'm pretty why do they assume because "im pretty" ill be happy and ok?
i can understand why your frustrated with the feelings you have. Being pretty does not make you insusceptible to emotions and problems. your heart breaks just like mine does. only difference between us is people assume you have the support of lots of friends, just as people assume because of my looks that I don't have anyone who would care one way or the other. These people are something else.something much worse than pretty or ugly.they are STUPID! However!, you need to explain what it is that is making you feel depressed outside of your frustration with those around you who are not giving your feelings the validation they need. that would be a good positive start.i recommend you sit down somewhere quiet with pen and paper, and begin to list the things that you think might be contributing to your feelings of depression. start small. at least 3. do that and we'll go from there! good luck and remember.vanity will never replace decency. - j. hit me up if you need anything else!
they assume that life is easier for pretty people they get ahead faster ect. but what are you so unhappy about is it just in general or some thing in particular?
Im unhappy because my life has gone I have no friends now that they have moved away and I have nobody to turn to anymore when I go out I just walk around on my own as there is nobody here anymore and I feel so lonely but nobody believes me because I'm so call "pretty" - 7 months ago
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Im going through the same thing I'm 23 I work and that's about it my friends have all moved away to new lives college etc. I stayed and went to school here and worked. I know that it feels that you have no one but this is what I was told. everyone grows up you can't hangout with your friends or they cant, like we used to in highschool so it sucks I know what I found to help me is just try to smile a lot more and stay positive I know this sounds like a bullshit answer but I have been dealing with - 7 months ago
ok.so you're depressed. that's fine, everyone goes through it at different times in their life, some longer than others. reality is that life is not always going to be fuzzy peaches. it'll be hard and there'll be times when you will have no one to comfort you but yourself. this is no accident that this is happening to you. you've probably been accustomed to and gotten used to having someone to turn to whenever times are bad. now you don't. instead of wallowing in self despair, pull yourself together for you. take care of you instead of asking or hoping that someone else will. when times get tougher, you'll know who your real friends are and trust me, sometimes you find out the hard way that those people standing in the background may not be the true friends you had wished them to be. when times are tough, you gotta be tougher. when you feel like people or things in your life are just pushing you down, you push back harder. don't let the whole 'pretty' thing get to you. do not use it ask a mask or an excuse to hide behind. if people don't want to believe that you are sad because you're 'pretty' let them be. these people cannot help you. there's only one person who can do that and it's you. prove to yourself that you can face sadness or any other obstacle in your life alone. use your inner strength to combat what torments you. do not just sit there and accept that your feelings should be dismissed. instead of confiding in someone whom you know will only put you down, do it alone. sometimes you need to do things alone to become a stronger person. when things seem hopeless, you must tighten your grip on hope even firmer than before. you must believe in yourself and that you will be happy tomorrow even though you aren't at the moment.
everyone goes through tough times. it's what you make out of every situation. so if you're feeling sad, smile even though it hurts. life is too short to be living it in the shadows. you owe yourself much more than that. so in the mean time try to pull yourself together. take baby steps to help yourself because when there's no one else to depend on, you only have you. that's the most important person in your life. you.
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