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I think I'm falling in love with my best friend?

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sing4him-2479 (Age:18 to 24)     When: More than a year ago
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So, my best friend is a guy who lives in CA. I live in TX. We met at a national Bible conference type thing. Anyways, after meeting randomly in a gift shop, we just hit it off, and instantly became best friends. I cannot stress it enough, we are EXACTLY alike in personality, and he is the only person that I can talk to about certain things. He tells me that I'm one of few people that he's ever missed in his life, and he also talks about me to his family all the time. We've already talked about me having feelings for him, and we both kinda agreed to just drop it.

However, lately I've been wondering. At the risk of sounding cliche, it feels so perfect. We both trust each other more than we trust even our own family members. He's the only person who can, without fail, cheer me up. And he says the same about me. We were talking about our friendship, and I was like, "How could our friendship get any stronger than it is now? I think it's hit it's peak." His response was, "Well, maybe if we got married it would get stronger..." I knew he wasn't really serious about it, but at the same time it made me think, he's the only person I've ever met that I think I could tolerate living with. Well, we've also discussed our friendship and agreed that our friendship was so strong that nothing could break it. I mean, we've never even argued once! He's also planning on flying out from CA to visit me in TX next year...I mean, he's just too good to be true, and while I love the way our friendship is now, I wish it could be more.

But we've already talked to each other about "feelings" and as far as I know, he didn't and still doesn't have feelings for me. And the craziest thing of all, we both agree that this is the strongest, closest friendship either of us has experienced, and that we might as well have been twins separated at birth, also, we tend to think of what the other person is going to say before they say it, and often times end up speaking in unison or finishing the others sentence...the crazy thing about all of that, (which is all crazy in and of itself) is that I met him last April. Less than a year ago. I don't know what to think anymore...

And I don't know what to do. So, help me out here. Do you really think I could be falling in love with him, and if so, what should I do??!!

PLEASE COMMENT, I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT. AT THE RISK OF SOUNDING DESPERATE, I NEED YOUR HELP!!!! SO, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE COMMENT OR MESSAGE ME!!! Thanks.

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Zillidan
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Zillidan (Age:Under 18)      When: More than a year ago
Take it slow. If he really loves you, which I think he does. You'll get an even stronger relationship over time. Since you met him at a bible thing, "if you're religions" advice would be to ask God if he's the man. God will give you a sign and hopefully it's a very noticeable one. That's my advice!
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LiquidAir
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LiquidAir (Age:18 to 24)      When: More than a year ago
It sounds like you two love each other very much, but in order to start a sexual relationship - you need sexuality, passion and lust.

Since you two are so similar, you might find that when it comes time to make love in bed there's no sexual energy. Sexual energy comes from being different, on opposite poles: male/female.

If your certain you want to explore sexual relationships with him, I would start by being more sensual & touchy and see where it goes.
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hostkeep1
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hostkeep1 (Age:18 to 24)      When: More than a year ago
Hey it is very possible and very natural that you would be falling for him. Both ya'll have realized what makes each other special. You love talking to him because you feel comfortable and secure around him. What more could you want in an actual bf/gf relationship? The only thing I would caution against is should ya'll get together and then somehow break up, would it ruin your friendship? I mean I've fallen for my best friend but I can't have her because she's my friends girlfriend and I love her enough to just ler her be happy with him so yeah go for him because it's all about the connection, that's what makes a good relationship.
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BrokenPrincesz
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BrokenPrincesz (Age:18 to 24)      When: 6 months ago
As I read this, I couldn't help but smile and feel sad at the same time. If anyone knows what you're talking about, it's me. I met this guy that I absolutely fell in love. after being his friend. We are so much a like and there isn't another human being on this earth that I trust more than him. I run to him with everything and vice versa. I've brought up my feelings to him countless times, but we both just seem to brush them off. I'm sure he doesn't feel the same way. yet we talk about things like marriage and ending up together as soul mates. It's so weird and heartbreaking but at the same time. special and makes me smile.

From what I read, I think you're as confused as I am. You think you're in love, and maybe you are. or maybe you just love this person unconditionally. I've come to the conclusion that my best friend is simply my soul mate. I can't beg him to be with me and neither can you. He knows you're into him and if he isn't asking you out then I guess he doesn't see you like that. And sometimes guys can lead us on and tells us things that we want to hear {i.e the marriage bit} - Try talking to him one last time. See what he says. Tell him exactly how you feel and if he doesn't feel the same way then I guess just thank god that you have such an amazing friend. it's what I do everyday =/
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jaycexDA (Age:18 to 24)      When: 10 months ago
It sounds like you're both infatuated with each other more than actually in love. You should just pace yourselves and take it slow. If you guys are really meant for each other, than rushing into things is really kind of pointless.
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