Ok, so I have a serious problem. I've been dating this guy for a while and we are getting along. I really like him, and I think he likes me too.
The thing is, near Thanksgiving I was worried and took a pregnancy test. It came positive. Since I don't believe it until it's shoved into my face I took a bunch of tests and they all came positive. I'm about to see the doctor on Wednesday and I know that I can't keep the baby (I'm too young, can't even take care of myself properly) and I already made the decision not to have it.
I haven't told him, I know it's horrible but I just can't... I don't know what to do... The more time goes by more confused I get about everything... help
It all depends on the guy. Sadly some guys may not be able to handle this news and it may hurt your relationship significantly...but some guys may want to know and it's always helpful in your situation to have somebody there to support you and help you through times like this. I guess you just have to figure out which type of guy he is. Good luck. I know this is hard because I've been the boyfriend in this type of situation but I was glad I was told no matter how terrified I was of her decision but she needed me and I helped her through everything without showing my terror.
You have to tell him. Its his baby, too, and he will would want to know about it. Both of you should talk about what you want to do, and make a decision as a couple. Even if you don't stay together, or agree on what to do, you both have to have involvement as the parents.
He will eventually find out about it, anyway! Its not something you can hide, nor would you want to.
I think you should tell him. I'm sure he'd agree because he probably didn't plan it and doesn't have the time or money for a kid either. Unless you KNOW he is strongly pro life I would tell him, because he is the father. But you're the mother and if you don't feel comfortable telling him, don't, but imagine if he somehow finds out afterward and is mad you never told him. If you do tell him stick to YOUR decision and what you want and don't let him sway your opinion, because you are making the best choice for you life at the time and he needs to understand and respect that, because it WILL affect you more than him, so you should have the first and final say in the matter. Good luck!
Tell him but don't be surprised if you both drift apart. Leave him and start over, otherwise you will be forever reminded of your accident. (And I personally think MEN have no say in whether you keep a baby or not, it's your body, your life.) Men do not understand what women go through when having a baby and when raising one. You have the rest of your life ahead of you, if I was in this situation at my age, I would not have the baby either, I also feel like I can't take care of myself, not that funny but so true. Babies can't take care of babies. Period.
Hey honey... Firstly the best thing you can do is tell him I know you might be scared but he has a right to know, after all he is the father lol.. you also need to tell someone close to you who is older than you so they can help you out alot better. Hope things work out for you, fingers crossed x
Do you think he'll want to keep it? Well, you've got to tell him, I think. It's his too...also, you're relationship can't survive with such a huge lie if you don't tell him. Good luck with everything.
You know that's a hard one. It's your decision, but I think he has a right to know. If he cares enough you guys will put heads together and come up with a solution. If not you should at least have some support to help you get through this. OK
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