As the proverb goes "Fake it to make it" you really need to copy all the actions , of what YOU think shows Confidence.
Now, there are some fundamental approach too. First thing is to build Self-Esteem , and that can be built by Discipline. Learn to say "NO" which are taking up your time and concentrate on the goal of the day. If you start achieving things slow and steady. U'll have a better self-esteem and in turn will boost your confidence.
Secondly, in your free time try remembering your past where you were in total control and were happy.
Confidence is very difficult and it's something I still wrestle with daily. Here are some suggestions I've picked up over the years. Try them all out and see which works best for you.
1. Pretend to be someone who you see as confident, like a character in a movie or television. Your behavior will eventually affect your thought process. I may seem like you're acting phony, but the "fake it till you make it" approach does yield results for people.
2. Baby steps. Do something every day that scares you. Don't jump into the deep end of the pool and try to be a social butterfly all at once (unless you're trying approach #1). Just try striking up a conversation with someone you don't know. You can even start simple and try talking with store employees who have to be nice to you.
3. Mental reinforcement. Just look in the mirror and keep telling yourself that you're confident. Keep saying it until you believe it. Write it down a bunch of times if that works better for you. This method didn't work for me but I know people who have been successful with it.
Hopefully one of these strategies will work for you and if not, I'm sure other people will see this question and make their own suggestions.
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