Is this really friends with benefits?

Well, in my experience (and I am guilty of this myself), it's natural for a guy to not want the girl to "move on" or get in a serious relationship with someone else. It doesn't mean they are evil bastards. What it usually means is they want a serious relationship with you and being friends with benefits is a way of experiencing that when they would get shot down otherwise. I suggest you tell him that he's being too controlling and if he doesn't understand, threaten to cut him off. that would work.

Oh... And don't give him the message that you are looking to move on... even if you are. That's about the worst thing you could do.

If you have a understanding of friends with benefits and he is trying to be controlling next time he called and wants to mess around tell him to f off.

And then next time he tells you he doesn't want you talking to other guys tell him "why? its not like we are together or something" That will put him in his place and either A) get him to do something about it and ask you out, or B) push him away and get rid of a guy that has no value for YOU.

If your looking for someone to just fool around with there are millions of guys that would love nothing more, you don't need a guy who is going to be a friend with benefits then try and control you like your part of his property, F that =P

One of the problems with these type of relationships is exactly what you describe. It seems that he wants to have the liberty to go out and maybe meet other girls, but he wants you to be exclusive with him. Possessive anyone? This sounds more like a control freak who shouldn't be having the privileges of the benefits you're providing. So what is it? A lose lose situation for you. Get out of it before it's too late.

The same thing happened to me, and when I said I didn't want to see him anymore he would cry so I would stay and I continued to be used. If you don't have feelings for him and are having fun then keep doing what ur doing.

So ur question"what is this really?" ur being used honny, and he wants you just to himself for his own satisfaction. You're only friends with benefits so he has to understand that you can see other guys if you want to. If he wants ya'll to be exclusive then he needs to ask you to be his girlfriend.

"What is this really?" -- Only you can answer that! What do you want out of the relationship? Were you all for the "friends with benefits" status or do you want a serious relationship eventually? If so, stop the benefits part now and try to salvage what you have and work from there. Talk to him, ask him what he wants and where he believes things are going. You obviously need to communicate with him and find out where you stand. If I were you though, I'd probably gain some self-respect and find somebody that deserved my time and attention! You can do better!