Do the guys that say they're not ready for a serious relationship ever come around?

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Just curious to see if anyone has had an experience where a guy told you that they weren't ready/looking for anything serious but they eventually came around and wanted a relationship? And if so, how long did it take him to change his mind?

smartsexycool21 · Accepted Answer

yes, I had an experience when a guy changed his mind in 3 weeks.  we had already been sexually active and I knew he liked me becuase of the way he treated me.  when I asked for a relationship he freaked out and threw a fit.  we didn't talk for 3 weeks and he called and apologized saying he really liked me, and that he didn't mean to give the impression that he only wanted sex.  he then said he wanted to be with me.  And now I am in the same situation with a person I think has the possibility to be " the one".  said he cared, we even got into business together, then I started getting emotional and attached and he freaked out, ( but what do you expect after almost a year being with a person). inside I am hoping he will come around and see that I am the girl of his dreams.  He's been hurt in the past many times, but hopefully God will show him that my love will over shadow any pain he still holds onto from previous naive girlfriends.

lostandconfused · Accepted Answer

I really hope so because that's what the love of my life did to me. We got so serious so fast he freaked out and left. I have barely spoken with him in the past month and I found out he's trying to fill the void of me and his feelings by  sleeping with other women. I want to have faith that he will take a step back and realize what he did but I have to live my life. All we can do is hope, good luck.

ionlife · Accepted Answer

Yes, the guys do come around, but what you may not like to hear that it may not be with you.

Every individual is different so nobody could possibly tell you how long it make take to change his mind.

What you need to ask yourself is whether you want to sit on the side of the road called life and wait for him to make up his mind. He may come around in two days, two months, two years or twenty years... How long are /you/ willing to wait?

Maybe it is time to tell yourself that you want to find someone who shares the same goals in life as you and go out and look for them... If this guy is 'the' one then he'll come around and realize that you are what he wanted all along. If he turns out to be the wrong one then at least you won't regret spinning your wheels waiting for him... If love is meant to be, set it free and it will come back to you.

CUDAGTO · Accepted Answer

To be honest with you dear, a man usually uses this line for two reasons. First reason, he likes you but doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. Second reason, he wants to play the field or has just come out of a relationship, good or bad, and he wants to see what's out there. No timetable can be given because you don't know which reason is his. But there are ways you can help him come around if you are what he might be wanting.

Do the guys that say they're not ready for a serious relationship ever come around?

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