Not to be conceited or anything, but I'm a pretty smart, studious girl. I have a 4. 0, National Merit finalist, 34 ACT, 2350 SAT, I plan to attend an Ivy League next year, I volunteered in Africa, etc. Etc. Let's just say I'm very serious about academics lol.
However, I firmly believe in a balanced lifestyle so I don't let school take over my life (maybe occasionally. )
Is it true that guys are intimidated by my intelligence? I've never had a boyfriend and everyone tells me it's because guys don't want their girlfriends to be smarter than they are. (And none of my intelligent guy friends date. ) It's not like I'm bad looking either. I love make up and fashion!
But I'm not interested in guys who will only approach me because of my looks. They tend to be jerks... I seriously don't think my appearance is the problem. I admit that I have really high standards and I can be a little stand-offish. - 4 months ago
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I know you are not interested in guys who approach you for your looks but that is what we see first, we can't see intelligence, so once we get you looking approachable, and men come talk to you, which they will, then you can dazzle them with your brains. - 4 months ago
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There is nothing wrong with high standards, I have them myself! - 4 months ago
I think you said yourself---seems you're in high school, so why are you even worried about guys not approaching you? At that state bunch of insecure and immature guys. Once in a univ setting, things will radically change. - 4 months ago
To answer your question, I don't think guys are intimidated by intelligence, but it all depends on the guy. I think most guys are looking for an easy laid, so is not so much they are intimidated, but maybe you're too smart for their games.
One of my closest friends graduated from her univ with 2 degrees, 4. 0 gpa, speaks 4 languages fluently, is one of the top people at her job, and needless to say, when we were in the univ, many guys were after her. Yes, those that were after her body only, quickly dropped out of the 'race' as they were not match for her intellect; those that were interested in her for who she was, were quite a few.
So again, I believe there are plenty of guys that love intelligent women, but maybe you're hanging around with the wrong crowd.
My current girlfriend is another genius type. Speaks 6 languages and understands couple more, well versed in math, literature, history, and hell, I'm too embarrass here to post my own sat or act scores, so again, proof enough that some of us guys love and worship intelligent women.
How to make yourself more approachable? I really think the problem might be the places you go to, or the people you hang out with. About the intelligent guy friends that you have that don't date, well, that's odd. What about friends of their friends? Maybe join more intellectual clubs or the such? Or go for the older intelligent men that are seriously dating!
But you should know that what you're being told is BS---I love intelligent women, and I only wanted dumb women to pretty much satisfy my sexual needs.
Thanks for your input! I guess highschool boys are still immature, which is why I can't wait to go to college and meet some real men. - 4 months ago
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You will also meet plenty of immature men at the university, but the number of highly intelligent men is also very high; and there are a bunch of intelligent men looking for intelligent women. Now, get rid of those friends giving you that advice! - 4 months ago
Noo its not true! College is much different from high school. Esp since you're going to an Ivy, you'll be among people who think just like you. The valedictorian from my hs was super super smart and also attends an ivy. But sooo many guys at school had a crush on her because she was so smart and had a great personality. They just never made a move because they thought she wouldn't be interested! This is even some equally intelligent and very hot guys! Don't worry. College will be a whole new world for you :)
Some guys and some aren't. Its very good that you're a smart lady which is excellent! Sometimes guys like that, and it is very good for your future let me tell you that. Sometimes guys get turned on by a smart girl.
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