Have you ever said goodbye to someone that you really wanted to keep?

I said goodbye to my ex of five years on the simple fact that he was like crack to me. I knew he was bad but I just kept coming back for that rush he gave me until I eventually got "clean" and broke it off with him. I still have withdrawal and want to relapse every so often. For the sake of my sanity I try very hard to stay away from him. Its especially hard to keep sober when you live in a small town.

Yes I have. There were just too many differences between us and finally it began to take its toll on our relationship. We have started to grow apart. He waited for a long time for me to clear up some of my issues, but I am afraid I have left him on the back burner for a little too long. Even now as "just friends" it is hard. There is too much love between us and it is very awkward.

He has a girlfriend now and it tears me up inside because I know how much I love him and how much he used to/still does (? ) love me. Even though it has been years, the past is still fresh in his mind and I don't think he will ever forgive me for hurting him even though he says he still loves me.

It is best for us to just be apart now, but it is better said than done. When we are together its the best, but it is not the best THING for us. We both go temporarily insane when it comes to each other and I don't want to use him for or let him use me because of how we feel for each other. I don't want to be the one to break them up, but I don't want to sit there and see "the happiness" when I am full of pain and anguish. I respect them both enough to let it go.

Who knows maybe it will all work out in the end for us and I can get off of my Celexa.

Yes I have. I had to say goodbye to him because the distance between us was too great and we started to grow apart from each other. Its been over 9 months since I've seen him and every time I talk to him it breaks me all over again. There is a quote that I really like its: Sometimes when you love someone so much. Sometimes saying goodbye is the greatest love of all.

Yes. Wrong time and wrong place. Best choice I made though. He is in jail.

Yes. sound sad! I i love that person but there a line between us. the person was great every thing but we think different, we didn't understand each other until later. after I say goodbye it's over,i begin to love that person each day.But there's a big line between us.

Yes because I know it wouldn't have worked out anyway because there are girls all over him 24/7 and he just can't take his damn pick - I mean no offense but guys are just clueless sometimes - if you like this girl more than that one why can't you pick her? Why do you have to go but I'm attracted to both of them! That's stupid in my opinion - if I know what I want I'll go for it I can't say actually I wouldn't say I'm attracted to both of them because it's just plain stupid. Period. So I told him you know what when you finally will decide don't even look me up - plain and simple! Guys should stop being afraid of females and if not by any chance are not attracted to the other one should tell the girl listen I don't like you, I'm not into you just say that, can you? And yes I had another problem like it - again I had to say goodbye cause he wouldn't tell the other girl I'm not interested in you!

Yeah I did actually. Well recently. Which sucks! I did it because I liked this guy soo much, that I just wanted to forget we ever met! But I don't regret it, we never went out, I just had a huge crush on him, but I wanted to pretend like we never met! And so far its great! He's not pining anyway, he has too many girls with him! =[

Yes, in a way. I loved this girl and she claimed to love me, however, we never seemed to be able to agree on anything from what we would on the weekend to what to have for dinner so we spent more time arguing then being happy together like we should have. I know that I was to blame for some of the things and she was to blame for other things but neither of were willing to admit it until it was way to late. Now we don't speak to each other and I know I miss her dearly and would love to get her back into my life, even just as my friend, but I doubt that she would come back into my life

Yup, because of differences in things like the timing of everything, busy lives, and what we wanted to do in life. Things that we both wanted to do that we're time consuming in separate ways. It was kind of like a patience vs priority concept for the both of us. Which turned out to be more of a hassle than a benefit to either of us. It was weird.

Yes.

Now, whether or not you're asking if we ALREADY have that someone as a relationship, or we just really want to have one the answers and reactions change slightly.

Then you also get into semantics. Do you really want to keep the person, or do you want to keep the idealized version that you may have seen? That number changes some of your answers.

I think most people have had some variation of this in their lives at LEAST once.

I did recently. She didn't feel the same way I did and it was too much pain. We'll see how it plays out, though. ;)