So I've been seeing this girl for just over a month. Her old boyfriend and her went out for 4 years, took a 7 month break, then me and her got together. I am a mutual friend of both of theirs, more so hers then his. So recently out of no where, even though things have been great and we haven't fought, she asks for space. I didn't know what this meant, as I couldn't figure out why. So she said give me 2-3 days. After giving that time, she still won't answer my calls or respond in anyway. Everything I've read tells me this is over, but I can't understand how or why. She told me a lot of great things of how much she liked me and what not, and so much talk of us being together in the future. I know her old boyfriend isn't over her, but I just want to talk to her and find out what she's thinking. Do I give her even more space and let her slip away, or fight for her and risk overdoing it and making her angry. Please help.
Update: I messaged her after giving her the 2-3 days of space, saying that I wouldn't keep calling her because I didn't want to keep bugging her. I told her how I felt, and that she could call me when she was ready, was that a smart move?
I was thinking of messaging her in a few days saying that I was just thinking of her, and asking her how her week was... bad idea or good idea?
You are sounding to needy and desperate. Hate to say it that way. Let her do the calling and chasing from now on. She isn't over her ex. Guarantee it. But, I would not bother her at all. You are pushing her away. No, not a smart move. She knows she can call you when she is ready. Again, that made you sound needy. So, do not contact her. If she doesn't contact you she just wasn't into it. It was a rebound. I know that hurts but, Its a bad idea.
The same thing sort of happened to me. Just let it go. Be thankful that you found out now instead of later. If she wants to be with you she will. There is nothing you can say that will make her change her mind if she doesn't want to see you anymore. So, I say save your dignity and just go on with your life like you are not concerned. That will bother her more than anything else you can do. It may make her think twice about her decision. Be prepared for her to possibly get back together with her ex. It sucks but, the fact is they do have a lot of history together. That is hard to compete with sometimes even if you are indeed the better guy. I hope it works out for you.
Doesn't matter what you do at this point. She's already broken up with you. I wouldn't do anything and consider her your ex. Don't even bother wasting your time telling her. If for some reason she does come back to you. Just say you sent her a text asking if she wanted to break up. And since you never heard back. You figured she did. Then get all mad at the phone company. Haha. Honestly its over, if you do talk to her, just dump her.
If she wants to be with you and things were going great between you and out of nowhere she needs space. Just end it now because she is going to anyways. She is either going back to her ex or met someone else. trust me its not worth it and if she liked you that much she wouldn't ask for space. I went through it and even when I knew the outcome, I must have had a mental block and gave her 2 weeks. Well lets just say I wasted 2 weeks haha. Go find a great girl that has her stuff together and and wants to be with you. best of luck to you man. There is always another one out there
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